t!” (Which is technically true since you used your “choose ignorance” option so well.) After a good 21 days of this the habit will be solid and you are good to go. Chances of being asked to do that particular job ever again are very slim.

There you have it! You can have your child sailing along in the learned helplessness mode before you know it!

Added bonus of this programming is that your child will quickly transfer this technique to most areas of life (unless she really wants to do something, then she’ll probably regress to pro-activ

How we can teach our kids learned helplessness:

Sarcastically Well Said!

1. Talk it up – if your child is struggling with a particular task or school subject, tell her it is ok if she doesn’t get it. For example, if math is a struggle, yell at her “That’s ok honey, I was never good at math either.” This tactic is two-fold. You can keep this country’s math phobia going strong, and you inform your daughter that she doesn’t have to learn because she’s genetically predisposed to fail. The constant parental reinforcement will work like a charm!

2. Hire Help! This is a brilliant idea. Instead of getting our educational professional to teach your son concepts that he needs further strengthening on, you hire someone just in it for the money. Now you need to pay well for this because it is really boring for a teacher not to teach. I suggest that you allow your child to be a bit nasty to this person, so he is discouraged from engaging your child in the actual learning process. Make sure that this tutor will do school work for your child to copy down. This will help reinforce your child’s dependency and give the learned helplessness a real strong boost in the desired direction. If your tutor can’t stand it, suggest they read a good book while waiting for your child to need some work done for him. The best way to use your tutor in this type of situation is to have him complete a whole project for your child. That will take some time and effort!

3. Model this trait so your sweet son or daughter gets plenty of live reinforcement. In fact, if you can perform (or avoid as the case may be) a desired learned helplessness task in front of your child for 21 days in a row (don’t cheat and skip any!) then you will have effectively modeled how to add a desired habit for your child.

An example is say you want to not have to _______. First you need to model the “choose ignorance” option. You must absolutely refuse to learn whatever someone is trying to teach you. Don’t open the manual, or listen to instructions. Just walk away and say “NO!” After this phase is past, and the chosen ignorance is entrenched, you can refuse to do this task but say, “I don’t know how to do that!” (Which is technically true since you used your “choose ignorance” option so well.) After a good 21 days of this the habit will be solid and you are good to go. Chances of being asked to do that particular job ever again are very slim.

There you have it! You can have your child sailing along in the learned helplessness mode before you know it!

Added bonus of this programming is that your child will quickly transfer this technique to most areas of life (unless she really wants to do something, then she’ll probably regress to pro-active

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2. Hire Help! This is a brilliant idea. Instead of getting our educational professional to teach your son concepts that he needs further strengthening on, you hire someone just in it for the money. Now you need to pay well for this because it is really boring for a teacher not to teach. I suggest that you allow your child to be a bit nasty to this person, so he is discouraged from engaging your child in the actual learning process. Make sure that this tutor will do school work for your child to copy down. This will help reinforce your child’s dependency and give the learned helplessness a real strong boost in the desired direction. If your tutor can’t stand it, suggest they read a good book while waiting for your child to need some work done for him. The best way to use your tutor in this type of situation is to have him complete a whole project for your child. That will take some time and effort!

3. Model this trait so your sweet son or daughter gets plenty of live reinforcement. In fact, if you can perform (or avoid as the case may be) a desired learned helplessness task in front of your child for 21 days in a row (don’t cheat and skip any!) then you will have effectively modeled how to add a desired habit for your child.

An example is say you want to not have to _______. First you need to model the “choose ignorance” option. You must absolutely refuse to learn whatever someone is trying to teach you. Don’t open the manual, or listen to instructions. Just walk away and say “NO!” After this phase is past, and the chosen ignorance is entrenched, you can refuse to do this task but say, “I don’t know how to do that!” (Which is technically true since you used your “choose ignorance” option so well.) After a good 21 days of this the habit will be solid and you are good to go. Chances of being asked to do that particular job ever again are very slim.

There you have it! You can have your child sailing along in the learned helplessness mode before you know it!

Added bonus of this programming is that your child will quickly transfer this technique to most areas of life (unless she really wants to do something, then she’ll probably regress to pro-activ

ild’s dependency and give the learned helplessness a real strong boost in the desired direction. If your tutor can’t stand it, suggest they read a good book while waiting for your child to need some work done for him. The best way to use your tutor in this type of situation is to have him complete a whole project for your child. That will take some time and effort!

3. Model this trait so your sweet son or daughter gets plenty of live reinforcement. In fact, if you can perform (or avoid as the case may be) a desired learned helplessness task in front of your child for 21 days in a row (don’t cheat and skip any!) then you will have effectively modeled how to add a desired habit for your child.

An example is say you want to not have to _______. First you need to model the “choose ignorance” option. You must absolutely refuse to learn whatever someone is trying to teach you. Don’t open the manual, or listen to instructions. Just walk away and say “NO!” After this phase is past, and the chosen ignorance is entrenched, you can refuse to do this task but say, “I don’t know how to do that!” (Which is technically true since you used your “choose ignorance” option so well.) After a good 21 days of this the habit will be solid and you are good to go. Chances of being asked to do that particular job ever again are very slim.

There you have it! You can have your child sailing along in the learned helplessness mode before you know it!

Added bonus of this programming is that your child will quickly transfer this technique to most areas of life (unless she really wants to do something, then she’ll probably regress to pro-activ

in front of your child for 21 days in a row (don’t cheat and skip any!) then you will have effectively modeled how to add a desired habit for your child.

An example is say you want to not have to _______. First you need to model the “choose ignorance” option. You must absolutely refuse to learn whatever someone is trying to teach you. Don’t open the manual, or listen to instructions. Just walk away and say “NO!” After this phase is past, and the chosen ignorance is entrenched, you can refuse to do this task but say, “I don’t know how to do that!” (Which is technically true since you used your “choose ignorance” option so well.) After a good 21 days of this the habit will be solid and you are good to go. Chances of being asked to do that particular job ever again are very slim.

There you have it! You can have your child sailing along in the learned helplessness mode before you know it!

Added bonus of this programming is that your child will quickly transfer this technique to most areas of life (unless she really wants to do something, then she’ll probably regress to pro-activ

t!” (Which is technically true since you used your “choose ignorance” option so well.) After a good 21 days of this the habit will be solid and you are good to go. Chances of being asked to do that particular job ever again are very slim.

There you have it! You can have your child sailing along in the learned helplessness mode before you know it!

Added bonus of this programming is that your child will quickly transfer this technique to most areas of life (unless she really wants to do something, then she’ll probably regress to pro-active behavior, but don’t fear it probable won’t last long!) You’ll have the joy of hiring people for ever area of life. Just think of the fantastic opportunities before you!

• You could teach your child to make messes and have others clean them up.
• You can show your child to have their every whim fulfilled – even have someone else cut up their meat on their plate (after age 4 – before won’t help create the habit you want because he doesn’t have the motor control yet – oh, but continuing this beyond age 4 will insure that his motor coordination will be lagging and then he’ll need MORE help – perfect!)
• If your child breaks something make sure to get him a brand new and improved one (after someone else cleans the mess up for him!)

You get the picture. I look forward to seeing what creative solutions you can come up with in training your child in this fabulous technique!