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Added for You - Golden Rules Of Communication Between Men And Women
Conceptualize, Build and Publish a Web site - What's required to get startedAll of us knowingly or unknowingly, use a standard decision making process in our day-to-day lives. The very first step of this process is to decide whether TO DO or NOT TO DO. If the choice is TO DO, we think of the various ways and means of attaining our objective/s, compare their pros & cons and take a final stand.The aim of this write up is to make you aware of the resources that are needed to achieve your TO DO objective. The TO DO objective is to conceptualize, build and publish your web site. The first step is to decide what you want from your web site. Do you want a site that your near and dear ones can visit from time to time (I assume you are far away from them.) or do you want a site that sells a product, service, brand or image? Whatever the purpose of your w
Rule # 4.
Don’t expect he’ll be describing you feelings he sense in detail. “He never tells me about his love! Only if I ask him too much… but after this I don’t want any love already!” This is not surprising at all. If we get this happiness “to love with ears”, we get it only during first months of relations. This way they “talk” us. And this is necessary only in the beginning!
Men seldom speak about their other feelings too – resentments, strained relations with other people, problems with subordinates or authorities. Expression of feelings aloud is quite difficult for them. And if a man began a strange monologue, hardly choosing necessary words, we should be proud of the honour that fell on us. On no account cut him short! Listen to him with bated breath. You can hear this not every day! Men pay serious attention to the things they talk about. Most likely, this is natural for them: they strict laconic predecessors killed mammoths, not talked to girlfriends…
How to repair the situation? Try to understand him – he’s not guilty he was born being a man. Trust his deeds, if he’s taciturn. You can teach him to express although some feelings. In a hypnotic sleep. Or unde
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- Darling, all our friends are already married long ago…
- Uh-huh.
- Do you hear me?
- I’m going to a football, let’s discuss your problems the day after tomorrow?
Quite often, a dialogue with a man develop according to one of two scripts: he either keeps silence, like a partisan, or cuts you short crossly. The stronger sex thinks we’re too verbose. That we say wrong things, wrong way and wrong time. There is no doubt: we’re different and the Nature itself laid these differences in us. And that’s why a usual conversation sometimes can turn into a torture: men “spill over banks”, women take offence. What’s the matter?
Completely different
The matter is that we have absolutely different ideas about dialogue and expectations from conversation.
- Men expect information, women – emotional support.
- Men talk to be listened and explode without powder, if we cut them short with leading questions all the time. Women talk to be listened and supported. To be asked important questions full of sense (like “And he? And you?”). And to see one’s interest in their problems. As a wise proverb says: “If a woman asks advice, she just has nobody to unburden her heart to”.
- Men are dumbfounded with a phrase: “We need to talk about our relations”. They can much easier bear ventilating of some concrete problem.
- Men don’t like asking, as they think it’s a demonstration of disrespect for an interlocutor’s independence; women treat this as a cold indifference to their problems. Do we have a chance to come to understanding? Of course, we do, we just need to follow certain rules.
Golden rules of communication between men and women
Rule # 1.
Reveal a concrete problem. Men are oriented on a concrete, clearly marked purpose of conversation. To be more exact, they wish to know - what do you want from them? Knowing an answer to this question, men think they rule the situation. If you announced that you want to talk about buying a vacuum cleaner, this means, he can take a deep breath and not to strain his mind to explain the reason of his yesterday’s late coming home. “Yes, dear, the best model, I’ll check all technical documents myself…” And imagine, how frightened he may become at your: “We need to talk promptly!” They are so nervous! We, women, even like to sit comfortably on a sofa with friends and say: “We have something to talk about!” And friends won’t be nervous at all, they’ll rather be glad. Who cares about the subject of conversation? We enjoy the process!
How to repair the situation? Read out the “agenda”. Tell what you’d like to talk about. Replace “About our relations” by “We’ve been dating for 5 years already. I’m afraid your indecision makes your mother devilishly sad. She certainly already wants to pass her boy in reliable, approved hands. May be, it’s time for us to… part/marry?” Psychologists think women should talk not using hints, but straightly about concrete things. As men are afraid of hints. May be we are up to no good against them? May be we try to manipulate them this way?
Rule # 2.
Don’t think aloud. As a rule, men think silently, saying just the final result. They prefer to express their thoughts only when they already know a concrete answer or, at least, when they know what they want to tell. We, on the contrary, can walk around our room and tell about everything that occurs to us: “I need to bring your suit to a dry-cleaner's today. I’m just going crazy of tiredness and all these problems with our son. I’ve never thought I’d come to such shame: he again has 3 “poors” for the semester and my mother always told me you have got a bad inheritance…” Splashing out a sea of complaints and problems aloud just through habit, we even don’t think to expect any support or reaction from men. And they are losing patience…
How to repair the situation? Forget about this sweet habit and think to yourself from now. And tell your man about a concrete problem or claim, when it’s necessary. Well, diffuse abstract complaints on an unhappy female lot can drive any man crazy and redouble this lot.
Rule # 3.
Don’t press down on him! Commands shouldn’t be discussed only in army. If your relations take place not in the area of operations, then you’d better forget about commands. In peaceful life, the stronger sex prefers to decide independently what to do. So, commands like “Hammer a nail in immediately!” are ignored most often: a man says he’s very busy. That a nail can wait. That earlier you managed to do without it. That we will hammer it in if not today, then tomorrow for sure. Why does this happen? The answer is simple: you didn’t leave a choice for a man. You didn’t allow him to make a decision independently and realize it. You didn’t give him a chance to punch a table and say, knitting his brow sternly: “I’ve decided to hammer a nail in!”
How to repair the situation? Ask him politely, not raising your voice. And if you manage to pack your request in just one or two sentences, then a success is guaranteed. If your requests are still not heard, try to hammer a nail in by yourself. In this case, either a man’s conscience will be awakened, or you’ll find you can hammer in nails by yourself excellently.
Rule # 4.
Don’t expect he’ll be describing you feelings he sense in detail. “He never tells me about his love! Only if I ask him too much… but after this I don’t want any love already!” This is not surprising at all. If we get this happiness “to love with ears”, we get it only during first months of relations. This way they “talk” us. And this is necessary only in the beginning!
Men seldom speak about their other feelings too – resentments, strained relations with other people, problems with subordinates or authorities. Expression of feelings aloud is quite difficult for them. And if a man began a strange monologue, hardly choosing necessary words, we should be proud of the honour that fell on us. On no account cut him short! Listen to him with bated breath. You can hear this not every day! Men pay serious attention to the things they talk about. Most likely, this is natural for them: they strict laconic predecessors killed mammoths, not talked to girlfriends…
How to repair the situation? Try to understand him – he’s not guilty he was born being a man. Trust his deeds, if he’s taciturn. You can teach him to express although some feelings. In a hypnotic sleep. Or under
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- Men are dumbfounded with a phrase: “We need to talk about our relations”. They can much easier bear ventilating of some concrete problem.
- Men don’t like asking, as they think it’s a demonstration of disrespect for an interlocutor’s independence; women treat this as a cold indifference to their problems. Do we have a chance to come to understanding? Of course, we do, we just need to follow certain rules.
Golden rules of communication between men and women
Rule # 1.
Reveal a concrete problem. Men are oriented on a concrete, clearly marked purpose of conversation. To be more exact, they wish to know - what do you want from them? Knowing an answer to this question, men think they rule the situation. If you announced that you want to talk about buying a vacuum cleaner, this means, he can take a deep breath and not to strain his mind to explain the reason of his yesterday’s late coming home. “Yes, dear, the best model, I’ll check all technical documents myself…” And imagine, how frightened he may become at your: “We need to talk promptly!” They are so nervous! We, women, even like to sit comfortably on a sofa with friends and say: “We have something to talk about!” And friends won’t be nervous at all, they’ll rather be glad. Who cares about the subject of conversation? We enjoy the process!
How to repair the situation? Read out the “agenda”. Tell what you’d like to talk about. Replace “About our relations” by “We’ve been dating for 5 years already. I’m afraid your indecision makes your mother devilishly sad. She certainly already wants to pass her boy in reliable, approved hands. May be, it’s time for us to… part/marry?” Psychologists think women should talk not using hints, but straightly about concrete things. As men are afraid of hints. May be we are up to no good against them? May be we try to manipulate them this way?
Rule # 2.
Don’t think aloud. As a rule, men think silently, saying just the final result. They prefer to express their thoughts only when they already know a concrete answer or, at least, when they know what they want to tell. We, on the contrary, can walk around our room and tell about everything that occurs to us: “I need to bring your suit to a dry-cleaner's today. I’m just going crazy of tiredness and all these problems with our son. I’ve never thought I’d come to such shame: he again has 3 “poors” for the semester and my mother always told me you have got a bad inheritance…” Splashing out a sea of complaints and problems aloud just through habit, we even don’t think to expect any support or reaction from men. And they are losing patience…
How to repair the situation? Forget about this sweet habit and think to yourself from now. And tell your man about a concrete problem or claim, when it’s necessary. Well, diffuse abstract complaints on an unhappy female lot can drive any man crazy and redouble this lot.
Rule # 3.
Don’t press down on him! Commands shouldn’t be discussed only in army. If your relations take place not in the area of operations, then you’d better forget about commands. In peaceful life, the stronger sex prefers to decide independently what to do. So, commands like “Hammer a nail in immediately!” are ignored most often: a man says he’s very busy. That a nail can wait. That earlier you managed to do without it. That we will hammer it in if not today, then tomorrow for sure. Why does this happen? The answer is simple: you didn’t leave a choice for a man. You didn’t allow him to make a decision independently and realize it. You didn’t give him a chance to punch a table and say, knitting his brow sternly: “I’ve decided to hammer a nail in!”
How to repair the situation? Ask him politely, not raising your voice. And if you manage to pack your request in just one or two sentences, then a success is guaranteed. If your requests are still not heard, try to hammer a nail in by yourself. In this case, either a man’s conscience will be awakened, or you’ll find you can hammer in nails by yourself excellently.
Rule # 4.
Don’t expect he’ll be describing you feelings he sense in detail. “He never tells me about his love! Only if I ask him too much… but after this I don’t want any love already!” This is not surprising at all. If we get this happiness “to love with ears”, we get it only during first months of relations. This way they “talk” us. And this is necessary only in the beginning!
Men seldom speak about their other feelings too – resentments, strained relations with other people, problems with subordinates or authorities. Expression of feelings aloud is quite difficult for them. And if a man began a strange monologue, hardly choosing necessary words, we should be proud of the honour that fell on us. On no account cut him short! Listen to him with bated breath. You can hear this not every day! Men pay serious attention to the things they talk about. Most likely, this is natural for them: they strict laconic predecessors killed mammoths, not talked to girlfriends…
How to repair the situation? Try to understand him – he’s not guilty he was born being a man. Trust his deeds, if he’s taciturn. You can teach him to express although some feelings. In a hypnotic sleep. Or unde
Confessions to CARP and 50 Plus and to all Canadian Seniors:If the Ontario Securities Commission is still searching for the Culprit who leaked to the public, Finance Minister Goodale's "good news" information on taxing Income Trusts, they need look no further. I will fess up and take the blame. Rest vindicated CARP and 50 Plus. I believe you. You did nothing wrong. This I understand after reading your article published on the current CARP website: http://www.carp.ca by Judy Cutler and Bill Gleberzon, Directors. Here is the scoop.I listened to his Interview on CKNW with Bill Good, a Vancouver Radio Talk Show Host, a few days ago. It was a surprise but an obvious fact that Warren Kinsella is now a re-baptized Conservative who once backed the Liberals in previous Election Campaigns. Now he is sitting on the side lines in a staunchly conservative ri
How to repair the situation? Read out the “agenda”. Tell what you’d like to talk about. Replace “About our relations” by “We’ve been dating for 5 years already. I’m afraid your indecision makes your mother devilishly sad. She certainly already wants to pass her boy in reliable, approved hands. May be, it’s time for us to… part/marry?” Psychologists think women should talk not using hints, but straightly about concrete things. As men are afraid of hints. May be we are up to no good against them? May be we try to manipulate them this way?
Rule # 2.
Don’t think aloud. As a rule, men think silently, saying just the final result. They prefer to express their thoughts only when they already know a concrete answer or, at least, when they know what they want to tell. We, on the contrary, can walk around our room and tell about everything that occurs to us: “I need to bring your suit to a dry-cleaner's today. I’m just going crazy of tiredness and all these problems with our son. I’ve never thought I’d come to such shame: he again has 3 “poors” for the semester and my mother always told me you have got a bad inheritance…” Splashing out a sea of complaints and problems aloud just through habit, we even don’t think to expect any support or reaction from men. And they are losing patience…
How to repair the situation? Forget about this sweet habit and think to yourself from now. And tell your man about a concrete problem or claim, when it’s necessary. Well, diffuse abstract complaints on an unhappy female lot can drive any man crazy and redouble this lot.
Rule # 3.
Don’t press down on him! Commands shouldn’t be discussed only in army. If your relations take place not in the area of operations, then you’d better forget about commands. In peaceful life, the stronger sex prefers to decide independently what to do. So, commands like “Hammer a nail in immediately!” are ignored most often: a man says he’s very busy. That a nail can wait. That earlier you managed to do without it. That we will hammer it in if not today, then tomorrow for sure. Why does this happen? The answer is simple: you didn’t leave a choice for a man. You didn’t allow him to make a decision independently and realize it. You didn’t give him a chance to punch a table and say, knitting his brow sternly: “I’ve decided to hammer a nail in!”
How to repair the situation? Ask him politely, not raising your voice. And if you manage to pack your request in just one or two sentences, then a success is guaranteed. If your requests are still not heard, try to hammer a nail in by yourself. In this case, either a man’s conscience will be awakened, or you’ll find you can hammer in nails by yourself excellently.
Rule # 4.
Don’t expect he’ll be describing you feelings he sense in detail. “He never tells me about his love! Only if I ask him too much… but after this I don’t want any love already!” This is not surprising at all. If we get this happiness “to love with ears”, we get it only during first months of relations. This way they “talk” us. And this is necessary only in the beginning!
Men seldom speak about their other feelings too – resentments, strained relations with other people, problems with subordinates or authorities. Expression of feelings aloud is quite difficult for them. And if a man began a strange monologue, hardly choosing necessary words, we should be proud of the honour that fell on us. On no account cut him short! Listen to him with bated breath. You can hear this not every day! Men pay serious attention to the things they talk about. Most likely, this is natural for them: they strict laconic predecessors killed mammoths, not talked to girlfriends…
How to repair the situation? Try to understand him – he’s not guilty he was born being a man. Trust his deeds, if he’s taciturn. You can teach him to express although some feelings. In a hypnotic sleep. Or unde
When we go through periods of droughts we also have other problems, which are increased. Things such as West Nile Virus, Bark Beetles, Disease Epidemics, Med Fly and realize these problems which occur during certain weather periods are compounded when the cycles get out of control. For instance an El Nino heats up the Pacific Ocean and expands the atmosphere and the jet stream is within the temperature and range to carry insects all the way across the ocean. Birds modify their stopping points for water during migration, stay in areas longer during the year or leave earlier thus their chances of infecting more areas are greater. When Deer travel further to go to watering holes during migration the come in contact with different livestock and humans. The Bark Beetle has a field day during droughts and the issues in Alaska, Prescott and Flagstaff, AZ are rather
How to repair the situation? Forget about this sweet habit and think to yourself from now. And tell your man about a concrete problem or claim, when it’s necessary. Well, diffuse abstract complaints on an unhappy female lot can drive any man crazy and redouble this lot.
Rule # 3.
Don’t press down on him! Commands shouldn’t be discussed only in army. If your relations take place not in the area of operations, then you’d better forget about commands. In peaceful life, the stronger sex prefers to decide independently what to do. So, commands like “Hammer a nail in immediately!” are ignored most often: a man says he’s very busy. That a nail can wait. That earlier you managed to do without it. That we will hammer it in if not today, then tomorrow for sure. Why does this happen? The answer is simple: you didn’t leave a choice for a man. You didn’t allow him to make a decision independently and realize it. You didn’t give him a chance to punch a table and say, knitting his brow sternly: “I’ve decided to hammer a nail in!”
How to repair the situation? Ask him politely, not raising your voice. And if you manage to pack your request in just one or two sentences, then a success is guaranteed. If your requests are still not heard, try to hammer a nail in by yourself. In this case, either a man’s conscience will be awakened, or you’ll find you can hammer in nails by yourself excellently.
Rule # 4.
Don’t expect he’ll be describing you feelings he sense in detail. “He never tells me about his love! Only if I ask him too much… but after this I don’t want any love already!” This is not surprising at all. If we get this happiness “to love with ears”, we get it only during first months of relations. This way they “talk” us. And this is necessary only in the beginning!
Men seldom speak about their other feelings too – resentments, strained relations with other people, problems with subordinates or authorities. Expression of feelings aloud is quite difficult for them. And if a man began a strange monologue, hardly choosing necessary words, we should be proud of the honour that fell on us. On no account cut him short! Listen to him with bated breath. You can hear this not every day! Men pay serious attention to the things they talk about. Most likely, this is natural for them: they strict laconic predecessors killed mammoths, not talked to girlfriends…
How to repair the situation? Try to understand him – he’s not guilty he was born being a man. Trust his deeds, if he’s taciturn. You can teach him to express although some feelings. In a hypnotic sleep. Or unde
Through a decade now mobile phones have become an essential part of the urban life. The initial days of mobile phones saw the phones being used as a mere communication tool that not only brought in a revolution to the communication world but also a whole new dimension to the world of communication. But this change did not end. With the passing of time more and more technological advancements have been happening in the mobile telephony industry and these advancements are being witnessed through the launch of great handsets that are fuelled with some real tremendous features and applications.With the taste of consumers changing, mobile phone brands are becoming more accurate in living up to the expectations of the consumers and catering to the needs of the consumers. Whether it’s the style or the functionalities, today’s mobile phones cater them all. Sam
Rule # 4.
Don’t expect he’ll be describing you feelings he sense in detail. “He never tells me about his love! Only if I ask him too much… but after this I don’t want any love already!” This is not surprising at all. If we get this happiness “to love with ears”, we get it only during first months of relations. This way they “talk” us. And this is necessary only in the beginning!
Men seldom speak about their other feelings too – resentments, strained relations with other people, problems with subordinates or authorities. Expression of feelings aloud is quite difficult for them. And if a man began a strange monologue, hardly choosing necessary words, we should be proud of the honour that fell on us. On no account cut him short! Listen to him with bated breath. You can hear this not every day! Men pay serious attention to the things they talk about. Most likely, this is natural for them: they strict laconic predecessors killed mammoths, not talked to girlfriends…
How to repair the situation? Try to understand him – he’s not guilty he was born being a man. Trust his deeds, if he’s taciturn. You can teach him to express although some feelings. In a hypnotic sleep. Or under anaesthesia. And it’s better to accept him the way he is. Even is it’s possible to change a man’s nature, this is too laborious process.
Is it worth trying? May be, it’s better to accept rules of the game?
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