to do is think consciously, NOT to let any past experiences interfere with your present actions and decisions. You have to make that critical CHOICE. You decide that from now on, you will assess the people for the way they are, and each person is unique in his/her own way. If nothing else happens, you will find dating a far more relaxed and judgment-less event which leaves both of you happy.

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Before you start for your first date, do you go through this exercise of presuming and expecting? that the person will behave in a particular way, he/she will dress in a typical manner. It could well be that you approach this person, thinking the end result will all be negative and nothing much is going to come of it. You are unconsciously judging and comparing this new date with someone who has made an indelible impression in your mind. Nobody compares to him/her. Or may be, this whole concept of dating is all wrong and fruitless.

It’s a good guess, that you could be harboring one of these feelings. If that be so, can you just think what damage you are doing to yourself, the date and the whole new prospect of a new relationship? You have created certain fixed notions about what he/she would be like, what he/she should talk or not talk, and there it is.

It’s all fixed and no body can move you an inch from those pre-determined judgments. What results from such fixed feelings is that it gets the better of you and sooner or later, and you make the same mistakes you made earlier. This spoils even the remotest chances of developing this new relationship into something worthwhile.

So what do you do to manage or get rid of these negative, self-defeating beliefs and feelings? Firstly, do a little bit of introspection. Think deep about the root causes of such beliefs and thoughts. Where did they start from? Can you link any of those, with any personal experiences of the past, or a second-hand experience of what you saw happening between your parents, grandparents or any close cousin?

What were your impressions about these people and their relationships? What lessons, if any, did you draw from what you saw? Are those feelings, affecting you the way you think about relationships now? If you do this exercise with all due honesty, chances are that you might come up with certain very revealing truths.

The next step for you to do is think consciously, NOT to let any past experiences interfere with your present actions and decisions. You have to make that critical CHOICE. You decide that from now on, you will assess the people for the way they are, and each person is unique in his/her own way. If nothing else happens, you will find dating a far more relaxed and judgment-less event which leaves both of you happy.

This topic was discussed with the sole intention of raising your awareness to the fact that pa

concept of dating is all wrong and fruitless.

It’s a good guess, that you could be harboring one of these feelings. If that be so, can you just think what damage you are doing to yourself, the date and the whole new prospect of a new relationship? You have created certain fixed notions about what he/she would be like, what he/she should talk or not talk, and there it is.

It’s all fixed and no body can move you an inch from those pre-determined judgments. What results from such fixed feelings is that it gets the better of you and sooner or later, and you make the same mistakes you made earlier. This spoils even the remotest chances of developing this new relationship into something worthwhile.

So what do you do to manage or get rid of these negative, self-defeating beliefs and feelings? Firstly, do a little bit of introspection. Think deep about the root causes of such beliefs and thoughts. Where did they start from? Can you link any of those, with any personal experiences of the past, or a second-hand experience of what you saw happening between your parents, grandparents or any close cousin?

What were your impressions about these people and their relationships? What lessons, if any, did you draw from what you saw? Are those feelings, affecting you the way you think about relationships now? If you do this exercise with all due honesty, chances are that you might come up with certain very revealing truths.

The next step for you to do is think consciously, NOT to let any past experiences interfere with your present actions and decisions. You have to make that critical CHOICE. You decide that from now on, you will assess the people for the way they are, and each person is unique in his/her own way. If nothing else happens, you will find dating a far more relaxed and judgment-less event which leaves both of you happy.

This topic was discussed with the sole intention of raising your awareness to the fact that p

fixed feelings is that it gets the better of you and sooner or later, and you make the same mistakes you made earlier. This spoils even the remotest chances of developing this new relationship into something worthwhile.

So what do you do to manage or get rid of these negative, self-defeating beliefs and feelings? Firstly, do a little bit of introspection. Think deep about the root causes of such beliefs and thoughts. Where did they start from? Can you link any of those, with any personal experiences of the past, or a second-hand experience of what you saw happening between your parents, grandparents or any close cousin?

What were your impressions about these people and their relationships? What lessons, if any, did you draw from what you saw? Are those feelings, affecting you the way you think about relationships now? If you do this exercise with all due honesty, chances are that you might come up with certain very revealing truths.

The next step for you to do is think consciously, NOT to let any past experiences interfere with your present actions and decisions. You have to make that critical CHOICE. You decide that from now on, you will assess the people for the way they are, and each person is unique in his/her own way. If nothing else happens, you will find dating a far more relaxed and judgment-less event which leaves both of you happy.

This topic was discussed with the sole intention of raising your awareness to the fact that p

sonal experiences of the past, or a second-hand experience of what you saw happening between your parents, grandparents or any close cousin?

What were your impressions about these people and their relationships? What lessons, if any, did you draw from what you saw? Are those feelings, affecting you the way you think about relationships now? If you do this exercise with all due honesty, chances are that you might come up with certain very revealing truths.

The next step for you to do is think consciously, NOT to let any past experiences interfere with your present actions and decisions. You have to make that critical CHOICE. You decide that from now on, you will assess the people for the way they are, and each person is unique in his/her own way. If nothing else happens, you will find dating a far more relaxed and judgment-less event which leaves both of you happy.

This topic was discussed with the sole intention of raising your awareness to the fact that p

to do is think consciously, NOT to let any past experiences interfere with your present actions and decisions. You have to make that critical CHOICE. You decide that from now on, you will assess the people for the way they are, and each person is unique in his/her own way. If nothing else happens, you will find dating a far more relaxed and judgment-less event which leaves both of you happy.

This topic was discussed with the sole intention of raising your awareness to the fact that past experiences should not be a standard template for all that is expected to happen in your life in present and future. It’s alright to draw lessons from the past, but grossly unjust, if you start living in it. Definitely you should analyze your past relationships but please do not let it interfere with your present actions and decisions. Or else, it will hamper your original intention to develop a healthy and loving relationship with someone of your choice. Your present choice.