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Added for You - Stinking Thinking of The Gay Single (And How To Overcome It)
According to the 2005 Annual Retail Theft Survey conducted by Jack L. Hayes International, Inc. shoplifters and dishonest employees continue to steal in record numbers. The survey reports that thieves stole over $5.8 million from the responding retailers in 2005. In addition, over 670,000 shoplifters and dishonest employees were apprehended and over $127 million was recovered from these thefts.One of the most interesting (yet frightening), aspects of the survey shows that the average amount in cash/merchandise that a dishonest employee stole was $724.15 (per theft). This contrasts significantly with the average amount that a shoplifter stole which was $126.87 (per theft).What do these statistics mean to you as a business owner? First and foremost, is that background checks should play an important role in the hiring process and should be completed on all potential and current employees. There have been many times that a dishonest employee was caught stealing or committing fraud where the employer was astonished and said “That was my most (trusted/hard working/long time/favorite) employee”.When it comes to employee background checks I think Ronald Reagan sums it up the best when he said, “Trust, but verify”. Should you trust your employees? Absolutely. Can you trust your employees? Not unless you have the proper checks and balances in place.
Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive therapy names a variety of different cognitive distortions, or thought traps, that can maintain one’s negative frame-of-mind and keep him stuck until he intervenes into his thought cycles. Listed below are a few of the more common distortions. See if you can identify yourself in any of these patterns. Half the battle is self-awareness.
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Benefits of using a buyers agent to purchase a homeYour agent will enter into the multiple listing service system your requirements for a home. They will be notified any time a property meets your specific criteria and report those findings to you. The agent will then arrange a personal showing of those homes. Your agent will arrange to get you pre-approved with a lender (if you haven’t already done so). With pre-approval, your offer will be stronger because you have the ability to perform. You will also know the maximum dollar amount that you can purchase.Your agent will give you their professional opinion regarding the price, location, and condition of any property that you are considering purchasing.Your agent will review and explain all the forms that you will be signing: disclosures, disclaimers, rights of recession and so on. You will have the explanation and reason for every form that you sign.Once we have successfully negotiated a purchase agreement, your agent will help you select a home inspector. After inspection, they will review the report to determine if any negotiation is needed with the seller regarding the repairs.If there are any lender required repairs or conditions resulting from the home inspection or appraisal, your agent will negotiate these items with the seller. A buyers agent represents you, the pur
“Guys suck! I’m never going to find a decent one who wants more than a one-night stand!” “All the good ones are taken!” “I’m not attractive enough to land myself a boyfriend” “Gay men and relationships just don’t mix. Why even bother?!”
Do you ever think such thoughts? If you’re single and on the market for a boyfriend, it certainly can be easy to get jaded and develop these and many more pessimistic thoughts about the gay dating scene. Especially when it seems like you’ve done just about everything to promote your “dateability” and consider yourself a “good catch”, yet still fall short of accomplishing your goal or vision, negativity can seem to just flow out automatically as you vent out your frustrations and try to make sense of the injustice of it all. But while it may seem natural at times to move toward this way of thinking in your upset, one must be very careful trudging in this territory because it can be detrimental to your well-being.
Negative thoughts, or “stinking thinking” as Grandma used to call it, are a leading culprit in such conditions as depression, anxiety, anger, and low self-esteem. Cognitive-behavioral theory posits that what you think affects how you feel which affects how you act, and then they all interrelate with each other creating vicious cycles that build upon the other. This article will help you identify your own negative thinking traps and teach you some strategies for combating them so you can construct a more optimistic, positive mental landscape that can surely help boost your quality-of-life.
The Power of Self-Talk
So if what you think helps determine how you feel and act, those pesky negative statements that opened this article will surely lead you down the path of the “blahs.” Self-talk is that little chatter we all have going on in our heads that comprise our thoughts (you’re not crazy! We all have it!) Thoughts stem from our beliefs, which are our deep-down in the gut views and values about ourselves and the world around us that we adopt from past experiences and socialization. One has to be careful with negative thinking because it can create self-fulfilling prophecies—that which you think causes it to come true. And don’t forget about the Law of Attraction—you attract into your life what you put out there; you get what you think about. The more you hang onto negative thoughts and ideals, the more likely that will be mirrored back to you and leads to more unhappiness, hostility, and pessimism. That equals decreased dating spirit!
Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive therapy names a variety of different cognitive distortions, or thought traps, that can maintain one’s negative frame-of-mind and keep him stuck until he intervenes into his thought cycles. Listed below are a few of the more common distortions. See if you can identify yourself in any of these patterns. Half the battle is self-awareness.
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An affiliate program is, simply defined, a sales job in which you earn a commission. You will be an independent representative of a company, offering their services and products to prospective customers. When one of the customers makes a purchase, you get a portion of the profit. Internet marketers can increase traffic to their own web sites and make money form the sales of others through affiliate marketing programs.Internet marketers can be affiliates for several products from multiple companies, on as many web sites as you operate, in as many businesses as you desire. You don't have to travel to remote locations, yet the internet places you in front of a worldwide marketplace. This gives you incredible diversity in the products you choose, markets in which you do business and neighborhoods in which to sell, all from the comfort of your own home in front of your computer screen. You could possibly make several sales at once, but you will never have to deal with face-to-face rejection. When doing business on the internet, you don't necessarily need to make sales to earn lucrative commissions. Certain affiliate marketing programs will pay you if someone just clicks on a link you place on your web site, fills out an application, or even requests additional information. And here's the most attractive part - your
Negative thoughts, or “stinking thinking” as Grandma used to call it, are a leading culprit in such conditions as depression, anxiety, anger, and low self-esteem. Cognitive-behavioral theory posits that what you think affects how you feel which affects how you act, and then they all interrelate with each other creating vicious cycles that build upon the other. This article will help you identify your own negative thinking traps and teach you some strategies for combating them so you can construct a more optimistic, positive mental landscape that can surely help boost your quality-of-life.
The Power of Self-Talk
So if what you think helps determine how you feel and act, those pesky negative statements that opened this article will surely lead you down the path of the “blahs.” Self-talk is that little chatter we all have going on in our heads that comprise our thoughts (you’re not crazy! We all have it!) Thoughts stem from our beliefs, which are our deep-down in the gut views and values about ourselves and the world around us that we adopt from past experiences and socialization. One has to be careful with negative thinking because it can create self-fulfilling prophecies—that which you think causes it to come true. And don’t forget about the Law of Attraction—you attract into your life what you put out there; you get what you think about. The more you hang onto negative thoughts and ideals, the more likely that will be mirrored back to you and leads to more unhappiness, hostility, and pessimism. That equals decreased dating spirit!
Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive therapy names a variety of different cognitive distortions, or thought traps, that can maintain one’s negative frame-of-mind and keep him stuck until he intervenes into his thought cycles. Listed below are a few of the more common distortions. See if you can identify yourself in any of these patterns. Half the battle is self-awareness.
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Raw land loans are loans on undeveloped land. Typically, borrowers seek raw land loans in order to: i) purchase and develop the land; ii) refinance out of an existing loan; or iii) pull equity out of the land in order to finance development of the land.Banks are often unwilling to make raw land loans because of increased risk, uncertainty concerning raw land's value, and because raw land is more difficult to dispose of if a bank is forced to foreclose the loan. Private lenders, however, have more flexibility to evaluate and approve deals that do not fit banks' traditional lending criteria. Therefore, private lenders are an important resource for borrowers and investors seeking raw land loans.So what should a potential borrower do if he wants to determine whether a privately-financed raw land loan is available (and feasible) for his specific deal? Although a search on one of the popular internet search engines will yield a vast number of potential private lenders, selecting an appropriate lender can be very difficult. Commercial loan brokers are useful in these circumstances because they can utilize their experience to present the loan request to the lender (or lenders) most likely to fund the loan at the best terms.Commercial loan brokers can also help borrowers avoid becoming victims of an increasingly common fraudulent practice: lenders w
The Power of Self-Talk
So if what you think helps determine how you feel and act, those pesky negative statements that opened this article will surely lead you down the path of the “blahs.” Self-talk is that little chatter we all have going on in our heads that comprise our thoughts (you’re not crazy! We all have it!) Thoughts stem from our beliefs, which are our deep-down in the gut views and values about ourselves and the world around us that we adopt from past experiences and socialization. One has to be careful with negative thinking because it can create self-fulfilling prophecies—that which you think causes it to come true. And don’t forget about the Law of Attraction—you attract into your life what you put out there; you get what you think about. The more you hang onto negative thoughts and ideals, the more likely that will be mirrored back to you and leads to more unhappiness, hostility, and pessimism. That equals decreased dating spirit!
Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive therapy names a variety of different cognitive distortions, or thought traps, that can maintain one’s negative frame-of-mind and keep him stuck until he intervenes into his thought cycles. Listed below are a few of the more common distortions. See if you can identify yourself in any of these patterns. Half the battle is self-awareness.
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The IRS is very strict on payroll tax and the deductions associated with it. Even a small miscalculation can land an organization in serious trouble with this regulatory authority. So, it is important to maintain careful records of payroll accounts in an organization.The first step to calculating payroll tax is getting each and employee to fill up the W-4 form from the Internal Revenue Service. This form aims to calculate the payroll tax depending on the marital status of an employee and the number of dependants. Since most states have payroll structures that are based on the federal system formulated by the IRS, this form helps organizations calculate the payroll tax withholding for both federal and state governments.Currently, the social security tax withheld from an employee's wages is calculated as 6.2% of total salary. This same amount has to be contributed by the employer, and added to the payroll account of the organization. The wage base for this tax is $76,000 dollars a year, beyond that, taxes need not be deducted from the employee. The same procedure is followed for Medicare taxes, calculated at 1.45% of the employees' salary. There is no wage base for Medicare taxes, and the employee and the employer goes on paying the tax independent of the salary of the employee. The Federal Unemployment Taxes (FUTA) is also calculated at 6.2%, but
Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive therapy names a variety of different cognitive distortions, or thought traps, that can maintain one’s negative frame-of-mind and keep him stuck until he intervenes into his thought cycles. Listed below are a few of the more common distortions. See if you can identify yourself in any of these patterns. Half the battle is self-awareness.
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There's a war going on inside you between flesh and spirit. Flesh and spirit are like two small neighboring countries fighting against each other in your mind; which is the world. Your thoughts are the world's most powerful country, they must decide who to side with and how to destroy the enemy before they get too powerful and take over the world, I mean your mind.The Works Of The FleshRomans 8:6 "For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace".The word carnal has the meaning of or about the body or flesh. For someone to live in the flesh they must have a carnal mind with all the thoughts of the flesh. This involves carnal appetites or cravings of the flesh. It also involves self-ishness or motivation based on personal needs and wants of the flesh.Galatians 5:19-21 "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God."Have you ever felt like you could never be good enough to please God, or that you're too weak to give up any
Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive therapy names a variety of different cognitive distortions, or thought traps, that can maintain one’s negative frame-of-mind and keep him stuck until he intervenes into his thought cycles. Listed below are a few of the more common distortions. See if you can identify yourself in any of these patterns. Half the battle is self-awareness.
· Black-and-White: the tendency to see things in an all-or-nothing fashion. “I’m either a success or a failure.”
· Mindreading: making assumptions about what others are thinking without evidence to back it up. “He’s going to say no if I ask him out for a drink.”
· Minimizing: downplaying situations or achievements.” "He said he had a good time with me, but he was just saying that.”
· Overgeneralizing: making sweeping judgments about something across the board; using words like “always”, “never”, “everybody.” "I’m never going to find a guy who will want to settle down with me.”
· Errors In Blaming: unfairly blaming yourself or others when things don’t go right. “I can’t find anyone to date because all these guys are so messed up!”
· Emotional Reasoning: concluding that if you feel a certain way about yourself then it’s true. “I feel rejected, so everybody must be rejecting me.”
· Downputting: cutting yourself down with disparaging comments. “He doesn’t want to go out with me again. I must be ugly.”
· Catastrophizing: magnifying and blowing things out of proportion (the drama queen syndrome). “I just know I’m going to make a complete fool of myself on this first date!”
· Shoulds: rigidly criticizing and judging yourself and others. “Guys should be more receptive to my advances.”
· Comparing: judging yourself to others according to set standards or assumptions. “I’m not as good looking as most of these guys in this bar. I don’t stand a chance of meeting anyone here.”
Yuck! Just saying those thoughts out loud gives a feeling of sinking defeat and they become more entrenched the more frequently they’re used. Your job is to identify your particular distortions and “catch them in the act” before they grab a hold of you. Anytime you’re having a negative emotion of any kind, at least one of these is at play. Knowledge of which thought trap is rearing it’s ugly head can better help you pick a strategy for defeating it.
Limiting Beliefs
In a teleclass given by Lynne Michelson, Director of Singles for Relationship Coaching Insitute, she stated, “Beliefs are like the soil. If the soil isn’t rich, nothing will grow and it will be a struggle.” We have to be in charge of our own growth and it’s important not to suc
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