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Added for You - Ten Ways to Keep That Fire Burning
Podcasting is an area of publishing that is growing daily. More and more speakers, recording artists, and others are using the Podcast as the next level of communication. So can you! Here are 5 steps to producing your own Podcast.1. Content. You have to decide on your subject matter first and foremost. Is it a speech? Write it. Is it music? Compose it and rehearse or get permission to use others’. Get all your preparation out of the way and be ready for your Podcast debut.2. Arrange the recording, You will need to find a place from which to perform or speak. Think about a recording studio when you plan for this—noises are shut out from the studio and they should be for your recording as well.3. Publish your work. Once you have recorded it, you will need to put it into a format like MP3. Before going to step 4, make sure it works—listen to it in its entirety. Does it sound like you want?4. Upload to a Podcasting service. One good internet search should get you lots of sources for this. It’s much easier than trying to do it yourself on your home computer. Many hosting sites have unlimited bandwidth. Make sure you also create an RSS feed or get one hosted5. Advertise your podcast. Get on forums, blogs, and if you have your own website, make sure there is a functioning link. Check it periodically to make sure it is still operating.
7. When it’s your turn to feed the fire, just do it.
When it’s your turn to feed the fire, remember that you are feeding this time and not eating, so what you like really doesn’t matter. Focus on what turns their heat up, not yours. If their fire is burning, don’t worry you will get warm.
8. It takes two.
There must be give and take in every relationship, it is called being thankful and appreciative towards each other. When selfishness gets in and it becomes all about me, all about I, then resentment may start to grow and that waters down any relationship. Stop blaming each other. You can say that you are not putting any wood on the fire because you are not getting any heat and the fireplace can say it is not giving any heat because no one is giving it any wood. Both parties are dependent on each other to have a warm relationship.
9. Don’t hog the heat
If you keep putting logs on the fire and you aren’t getting any heat or comfort out of it, you will eventually stop feeding that fire. You must give out as much as you receive if not more. A good fireplace is designed to give back a good portion of the heat it generates; a poor one allows all the heat to go up the chimney. If your spouse is giving and giving and you are taking and taking, don’t be surprised when the giving stops. It is called balance. Everything in the universe survives on this principle and so does your relationship. You must give in order to receive and if you want more, you must give more. Again, if you are not doing your part, don’t be surprised when the wood stops coming.
Question: I’ve got a forum and it’s a ghost town. How can I get people to my forum? – NobodyLovesMeDear Nobody Loves Me,Building a forum into a happenin’ place is a LOT of work. Don’t be discouraged if your efforts aren’t paying off yet. It does take time.That being said, there are ways to boost your forum and keep boosting it, without having to spend a lot of money. Let me share one of my favorite ways to get traffic, writing articles.You may not be familiar with article sharing. Basically, you write and share your articles with other websites and newsletters that need content. They publish your article with your author resource box (including your website URL). This helps both of you. The website publisher needs interesting, informative content and you need the exposure.But, what does this have to do with building your forum? It can help you in two ways.1. In your author bio, include a link directly to your forum so people that click through your link can sign up immediately and get chatting with the other members.2. Or link to your website and have your forum prominently displayed on every page. The more incoming links you have pointing to your website content, the more important the search engines will think your site is – and you’ll get more natural traffic from google, msn, and yahoo.So, how do you take advantage of this method of gener
If you want a bigger and hotter fire you have to put more wood in the fireplace; and because wood gets consumed rather quickly, in order to maintain the same level of heat, you must put wood on the fire at the same rate that it is being consumed.
If you want to keep the fire burning in your relationship you must also put “wood on the fire” at the same level it is being consumed.
When we first meet someone, it starts with a spark. We then feed that spark with fuel such as flowers, dinner, notes, poems, candlelight dinners, long walks going nowhere just talking etc. Over the years many couples allow other things to consume their time like work, the children and their activities, the house and yard work and they often forget to feed the fire. What happens? You got it, the flame goes out and the heat is gone. Instead of blaming themselves for not feeding the fire, many blame the fireplace and say that it stopped working and they all to often begin to look for warmth from other sources; TV, the children, the internet, work, food, hobbies, sports, chat rooms and even other relationships; any other place they find comfort and enjoyment. You can easily see who these couples are if you look hard enough; they usually never hold hands anymore, hugs are a thing of the past, dinner is spent reading the newspaper and when the meal is over, (if they even still eat together) he goes his way and she goes hers. He finds just as much warmth on the couch and she finds just as much affection in a book.
At this point, if you are still with me, many of you are probably thinking; “Oh my gosh! He is talking about us!”
Well if that is true, there is still hope: read on....
What can you do to prevent passion burn out?
It takes intentional work to keep any fire burning and that includes the fire in your relationship. When I had a wood stove, I sometimes had to get up in the middle of the night to put more wood on the fire. I had to prepare and have wood on hand before things started getting cold and that cost time, effort and sometimes money. If you want passion in your relationship, it will take work, it will take effort on your part and it sometimes takes doing things you would rather not do.
1. Prepare for cold times before they get there.
The worst thing one can do is to wait for the fire to start going out before you gather wood. This means that in advance, before things get cold, you have to store up time to get away, set aside a few bucks to go out to dinner or hotel, schedule baby sitters in advance, schedule vacations, plan special things for your anniversary, birthdays, valentines day etc. Sit down with each other; get a calendar and set aside dates that you both agree to keep no matter what. Put a Red Heart on those days; when life gets hectic and begins to suck the passion out of you, just looking at that heart can bring comfort and anticipation. Plan special surprise dates where each person is responsible for what is done and where you go without the other knowing in advance.
2. Don’t wait for the fire to get too small
No one likes having the temperature fluctuate too much; cold one minute, hot the next. We would rather have steady warmth. In order to do this with a fire and a relationship, you must feed the fire on a regular basis. Set aside weekly or biweekly date nights. Sometimes a night away in a different environment will do wonders, even if it’s a hotel around the corner from where you live. Go out to dinner, a movie or just a walk in the park; take a ride in the car with the radio off so you can talk with each other. Keep the cell phones off or at least screen the calls and only take emergencies. Send flowers or candy, leave love notes and words of encouragement in places only your loved ones go. Leave a message on the answering machine, letting them know you love them, remember the phone companies commercial from a few years ago? “I just called to say I love you.” It is still effective. Surprise them with lunch at work. Be creative.
3. Watch the fire.
Sometimes because of the environment and type of wood that is used, you may need to feed the fire at faster intervals. Life is never the same every day. Some days we can coast and things go smooth and other days seem as though everything that can go wrong does. It is the busy and tough days that suck the life and passion out of us. Keep an eye on the fire; if your spouse is having rough times you may need to put a little extra wood on. Take some of their responsibilities away from them during these days to lighten their load. Be extra affectionate, run the bath and have a few candles lit. Send the kids to the neighbors for a few hours or better yet, you take them to the movies.
4. Load up for the long nights.
If you foresee any reason that you may not be able to tend to the fire, make sure you have the fireplace loaded if you want it to still be burning when things return to normal. If a person leaves with a fresh memory of how warm and comfortable it is at home, they will be less apt to look for warmth elsewhere. Enough said?
5. Stay away from fire extinguishers.
There are certain things that will put out a fire in a heartbeat. Phone calls during dinner, conversations about work, lack of money, reading the paper and not paying attention, complaining and nagging are all things that will put out the passion. Even children with their needs will put a damper on a well intended night out. Make arrangements for them to be away. Neighbors and in-laws can come knocking on the door with best intentions, hang a do not disturb sign out and let everyone know that they need to stay away.
6. Know your wood.
You must know what fuel burns best. Know your partners likes and dislikes, know what they like to eat, the kind of movies they enjoy and what they enjoy doing. If you are not sure what turns their heat up, ASK! Trust me, it is easier to ask than it is to experiment. And hey! When they tell you what they like, don’t think you know better. Men; a night at Lowes looking at the latest cordless drill may seem like a good time to you, but trust me, that wood is not getting lit; and ladies if your husband isn’t the mushy love story kind of guy, movies like “Pretty Woman” are as wet as wood can get.
7. When it’s your turn to feed the fire, just do it.
When it’s your turn to feed the fire, remember that you are feeding this time and not eating, so what you like really doesn’t matter. Focus on what turns their heat up, not yours. If their fire is burning, don’t worry you will get warm.
8. It takes two.
There must be give and take in every relationship, it is called being thankful and appreciative towards each other. When selfishness gets in and it becomes all about me, all about I, then resentment may start to grow and that waters down any relationship. Stop blaming each other. You can say that you are not putting any wood on the fire because you are not getting any heat and the fireplace can say it is not giving any heat because no one is giving it any wood. Both parties are dependent on each other to have a warm relationship.
9. Don’t hog the heat
If you keep putting logs on the fire and you aren’t getting any heat or comfort out of it, you will eventually stop feeding that fire. You must give out as much as you receive if not more. A good fireplace is designed to give back a good portion of the heat it generates; a poor one allows all the heat to go up the chimney. If your spouse is giving and giving and you are taking and taking, don’t be surprised when the giving stops. It is called balance. Everything in the universe survives on this principle and so does your relationship. You must give in order to receive and if you want more, you must give more. Again, if you are not doing your part, don’t be surprised when the wood stops coming.
During the years that I’ve been teaching writing and participating in writers’ critique sessions, I’ve seen some real talent. There are writers who produce such sparkling prose that you know publication is only a matter of time.There are others who have wonderful ideas, terrific plots and lively characters—but who may never see their work in print. The reason? They are making one or more writing mistakes that will cause an editor to toss their writing aside. Often, when these mistakes are brought to the writer’s attention, she makes comments like ‘I can’t believe I didn’t pick that up!’ or ‘Oh no, I feel so stupid’.It’s so easy to see those mistakes when they’re pointed out to us—but it’s also far too easy to go on for years doing the same thing if we’re not alerted to the problem.Here are some of the most common writing mistakes. Read through them to see if there’s a clue here about what might be stopping you from getting a ‘yes’!Technical Mistakes—Grammar, Spelling and Punctuation1. Changes in tense.The writer starts in the present tense then slips into past tense or vice versa. Sometimes this happens only once during the scene or story; sometimes the tenses switch back and forth all the way through. Tip: Quite often this happens after the writer has moved into the present tense to show the character’s thoughts. For example:
At this point, if you are still with me, many of you are probably thinking; “Oh my gosh! He is talking about us!”
Well if that is true, there is still hope: read on....
What can you do to prevent passion burn out?
It takes intentional work to keep any fire burning and that includes the fire in your relationship. When I had a wood stove, I sometimes had to get up in the middle of the night to put more wood on the fire. I had to prepare and have wood on hand before things started getting cold and that cost time, effort and sometimes money. If you want passion in your relationship, it will take work, it will take effort on your part and it sometimes takes doing things you would rather not do.
1. Prepare for cold times before they get there.
The worst thing one can do is to wait for the fire to start going out before you gather wood. This means that in advance, before things get cold, you have to store up time to get away, set aside a few bucks to go out to dinner or hotel, schedule baby sitters in advance, schedule vacations, plan special things for your anniversary, birthdays, valentines day etc. Sit down with each other; get a calendar and set aside dates that you both agree to keep no matter what. Put a Red Heart on those days; when life gets hectic and begins to suck the passion out of you, just looking at that heart can bring comfort and anticipation. Plan special surprise dates where each person is responsible for what is done and where you go without the other knowing in advance.
2. Don’t wait for the fire to get too small
No one likes having the temperature fluctuate too much; cold one minute, hot the next. We would rather have steady warmth. In order to do this with a fire and a relationship, you must feed the fire on a regular basis. Set aside weekly or biweekly date nights. Sometimes a night away in a different environment will do wonders, even if it’s a hotel around the corner from where you live. Go out to dinner, a movie or just a walk in the park; take a ride in the car with the radio off so you can talk with each other. Keep the cell phones off or at least screen the calls and only take emergencies. Send flowers or candy, leave love notes and words of encouragement in places only your loved ones go. Leave a message on the answering machine, letting them know you love them, remember the phone companies commercial from a few years ago? “I just called to say I love you.” It is still effective. Surprise them with lunch at work. Be creative.
3. Watch the fire.
Sometimes because of the environment and type of wood that is used, you may need to feed the fire at faster intervals. Life is never the same every day. Some days we can coast and things go smooth and other days seem as though everything that can go wrong does. It is the busy and tough days that suck the life and passion out of us. Keep an eye on the fire; if your spouse is having rough times you may need to put a little extra wood on. Take some of their responsibilities away from them during these days to lighten their load. Be extra affectionate, run the bath and have a few candles lit. Send the kids to the neighbors for a few hours or better yet, you take them to the movies.
4. Load up for the long nights.
If you foresee any reason that you may not be able to tend to the fire, make sure you have the fireplace loaded if you want it to still be burning when things return to normal. If a person leaves with a fresh memory of how warm and comfortable it is at home, they will be less apt to look for warmth elsewhere. Enough said?
5. Stay away from fire extinguishers.
There are certain things that will put out a fire in a heartbeat. Phone calls during dinner, conversations about work, lack of money, reading the paper and not paying attention, complaining and nagging are all things that will put out the passion. Even children with their needs will put a damper on a well intended night out. Make arrangements for them to be away. Neighbors and in-laws can come knocking on the door with best intentions, hang a do not disturb sign out and let everyone know that they need to stay away.
6. Know your wood.
You must know what fuel burns best. Know your partners likes and dislikes, know what they like to eat, the kind of movies they enjoy and what they enjoy doing. If you are not sure what turns their heat up, ASK! Trust me, it is easier to ask than it is to experiment. And hey! When they tell you what they like, don’t think you know better. Men; a night at Lowes looking at the latest cordless drill may seem like a good time to you, but trust me, that wood is not getting lit; and ladies if your husband isn’t the mushy love story kind of guy, movies like “Pretty Woman” are as wet as wood can get.
7. When it’s your turn to feed the fire, just do it.
When it’s your turn to feed the fire, remember that you are feeding this time and not eating, so what you like really doesn’t matter. Focus on what turns their heat up, not yours. If their fire is burning, don’t worry you will get warm.
8. It takes two.
There must be give and take in every relationship, it is called being thankful and appreciative towards each other. When selfishness gets in and it becomes all about me, all about I, then resentment may start to grow and that waters down any relationship. Stop blaming each other. You can say that you are not putting any wood on the fire because you are not getting any heat and the fireplace can say it is not giving any heat because no one is giving it any wood. Both parties are dependent on each other to have a warm relationship.
9. Don’t hog the heat
If you keep putting logs on the fire and you aren’t getting any heat or comfort out of it, you will eventually stop feeding that fire. You must give out as much as you receive if not more. A good fireplace is designed to give back a good portion of the heat it generates; a poor one allows all the heat to go up the chimney. If your spouse is giving and giving and you are taking and taking, don’t be surprised when the giving stops. It is called balance. Everything in the universe survives on this principle and so does your relationship. You must give in order to receive and if you want more, you must give more. Again, if you are not doing your part, don’t be surprised when the wood stops coming.
The main reason for buyer resistance and selling stalls boils down to one simple fact: the reasons for not buying are bigger to the prospect than the reason to buy.If you sell an intangible product or service, it may be even tougher to close down a sale because your product or service is not something people can see, touch, or feel. So the reasons for your prospects to buy have to be vivid, logical, and emotional. There has to be a reason for them to buy NOW, or they’ll put off making the decision until later.When you sit down with a prospect, ask a lot of questions about the prospect related to your product or service to get the person to tell you what is important in his/her life.If you are selling a tangible product, you might ask questions like the following:-- What do you like most about your current product?-- What do you like least?-- If you could change anything about the product you have now, what would it be?-- Has any needs changed hat makes buying a new product different than the last time you bought (bigger family, etc.)?-- Why do you want to buy a new product?If you are selling an intangible product, then questions like the following might be more helpful?-- At this point in your family/career, are you more concerned with getting ahead, security, planning for the future, creating a legacy, being esteemed by other
No one likes having the temperature fluctuate too much; cold one minute, hot the next. We would rather have steady warmth. In order to do this with a fire and a relationship, you must feed the fire on a regular basis. Set aside weekly or biweekly date nights. Sometimes a night away in a different environment will do wonders, even if it’s a hotel around the corner from where you live. Go out to dinner, a movie or just a walk in the park; take a ride in the car with the radio off so you can talk with each other. Keep the cell phones off or at least screen the calls and only take emergencies. Send flowers or candy, leave love notes and words of encouragement in places only your loved ones go. Leave a message on the answering machine, letting them know you love them, remember the phone companies commercial from a few years ago? “I just called to say I love you.” It is still effective. Surprise them with lunch at work. Be creative.
3. Watch the fire.
Sometimes because of the environment and type of wood that is used, you may need to feed the fire at faster intervals. Life is never the same every day. Some days we can coast and things go smooth and other days seem as though everything that can go wrong does. It is the busy and tough days that suck the life and passion out of us. Keep an eye on the fire; if your spouse is having rough times you may need to put a little extra wood on. Take some of their responsibilities away from them during these days to lighten their load. Be extra affectionate, run the bath and have a few candles lit. Send the kids to the neighbors for a few hours or better yet, you take them to the movies.
4. Load up for the long nights.
If you foresee any reason that you may not be able to tend to the fire, make sure you have the fireplace loaded if you want it to still be burning when things return to normal. If a person leaves with a fresh memory of how warm and comfortable it is at home, they will be less apt to look for warmth elsewhere. Enough said?
5. Stay away from fire extinguishers.
There are certain things that will put out a fire in a heartbeat. Phone calls during dinner, conversations about work, lack of money, reading the paper and not paying attention, complaining and nagging are all things that will put out the passion. Even children with their needs will put a damper on a well intended night out. Make arrangements for them to be away. Neighbors and in-laws can come knocking on the door with best intentions, hang a do not disturb sign out and let everyone know that they need to stay away.
6. Know your wood.
You must know what fuel burns best. Know your partners likes and dislikes, know what they like to eat, the kind of movies they enjoy and what they enjoy doing. If you are not sure what turns their heat up, ASK! Trust me, it is easier to ask than it is to experiment. And hey! When they tell you what they like, don’t think you know better. Men; a night at Lowes looking at the latest cordless drill may seem like a good time to you, but trust me, that wood is not getting lit; and ladies if your husband isn’t the mushy love story kind of guy, movies like “Pretty Woman” are as wet as wood can get.
7. When it’s your turn to feed the fire, just do it.
When it’s your turn to feed the fire, remember that you are feeding this time and not eating, so what you like really doesn’t matter. Focus on what turns their heat up, not yours. If their fire is burning, don’t worry you will get warm.
8. It takes two.
There must be give and take in every relationship, it is called being thankful and appreciative towards each other. When selfishness gets in and it becomes all about me, all about I, then resentment may start to grow and that waters down any relationship. Stop blaming each other. You can say that you are not putting any wood on the fire because you are not getting any heat and the fireplace can say it is not giving any heat because no one is giving it any wood. Both parties are dependent on each other to have a warm relationship.
9. Don’t hog the heat
If you keep putting logs on the fire and you aren’t getting any heat or comfort out of it, you will eventually stop feeding that fire. You must give out as much as you receive if not more. A good fireplace is designed to give back a good portion of the heat it generates; a poor one allows all the heat to go up the chimney. If your spouse is giving and giving and you are taking and taking, don’t be surprised when the giving stops. It is called balance. Everything in the universe survives on this principle and so does your relationship. You must give in order to receive and if you want more, you must give more. Again, if you are not doing your part, don’t be surprised when the wood stops coming.
Okay, you’re working on your stinkin’ thinkin’…you know that you’re already writing e-books whether you want to or not…and you’re not quite as afraid of failing as before…that’s a pretty good start!This chapter’s going to teach you a valuable method to get original ideas for an e-book. I learned it several years ago from my friend, Bryan Kumar, who’s a master at this. Over the years, I’ve added to Bryan’s original idea and have come up with a “sure-fire” way to get ideas out of anyone’s mind…no matter what’s going on in there!We’ll get to this technique in a moment, but, first, let’s get the ideas you already have floating around in your brain down on paper. Oh, you don’t write them down? I hate to say this, but… that’s just plain stupid! Any one of those ideas may well be a million dollar idea…the one that puts you over the top…the one that changes your life forever! Those ideas of yours are valuable things, so let’s get started doing that first.Nothing….and I mean absolutely nothing…ever truly exists until it’s been put down on paper first. Think about it! An airplane, a new car model, a building, a dam, the clothes you’re wearing right now…they all existed on paper before they existed in real life. I can’t stress this enough! Put those ideas down on paper RIGHT NOW!Before we even get started, you HAVE to have a few blank pieces of paper right there in front
4. Load up for the long nights.
If you foresee any reason that you may not be able to tend to the fire, make sure you have the fireplace loaded if you want it to still be burning when things return to normal. If a person leaves with a fresh memory of how warm and comfortable it is at home, they will be less apt to look for warmth elsewhere. Enough said?
5. Stay away from fire extinguishers.
There are certain things that will put out a fire in a heartbeat. Phone calls during dinner, conversations about work, lack of money, reading the paper and not paying attention, complaining and nagging are all things that will put out the passion. Even children with their needs will put a damper on a well intended night out. Make arrangements for them to be away. Neighbors and in-laws can come knocking on the door with best intentions, hang a do not disturb sign out and let everyone know that they need to stay away.
6. Know your wood.
You must know what fuel burns best. Know your partners likes and dislikes, know what they like to eat, the kind of movies they enjoy and what they enjoy doing. If you are not sure what turns their heat up, ASK! Trust me, it is easier to ask than it is to experiment. And hey! When they tell you what they like, don’t think you know better. Men; a night at Lowes looking at the latest cordless drill may seem like a good time to you, but trust me, that wood is not getting lit; and ladies if your husband isn’t the mushy love story kind of guy, movies like “Pretty Woman” are as wet as wood can get.
7. When it’s your turn to feed the fire, just do it.
When it’s your turn to feed the fire, remember that you are feeding this time and not eating, so what you like really doesn’t matter. Focus on what turns their heat up, not yours. If their fire is burning, don’t worry you will get warm.
8. It takes two.
There must be give and take in every relationship, it is called being thankful and appreciative towards each other. When selfishness gets in and it becomes all about me, all about I, then resentment may start to grow and that waters down any relationship. Stop blaming each other. You can say that you are not putting any wood on the fire because you are not getting any heat and the fireplace can say it is not giving any heat because no one is giving it any wood. Both parties are dependent on each other to have a warm relationship.
9. Don’t hog the heat
If you keep putting logs on the fire and you aren’t getting any heat or comfort out of it, you will eventually stop feeding that fire. You must give out as much as you receive if not more. A good fireplace is designed to give back a good portion of the heat it generates; a poor one allows all the heat to go up the chimney. If your spouse is giving and giving and you are taking and taking, don’t be surprised when the giving stops. It is called balance. Everything in the universe survives on this principle and so does your relationship. You must give in order to receive and if you want more, you must give more. Again, if you are not doing your part, don’t be surprised when the wood stops coming.
Bad credit unsecured credit cards can be the credit card holy grail to those who have suffered bruises to their credit history. However, they're not always easy to find and there's quite a bit of misinformation surrounding them. Fortunately, finding the right bad credit unsecured credit cards is as easy as understanding a few simple facts.1. There's No Such Thing as a Free RideIf you have bad credit, don't expect to qualify for a credit card with low interest and no annual fee. Lenders will see you as a high risk and because of this, bad credit unsecured credit cards usually come with higher interest rates and some type of annual fee attached. That doesn't, however, mean that you should pay through the nose for the privilege of having a credit card.There are some bad credit unsecured credit cards out there that will try to charge high annual fees, application fees, processing fees and then a high interest rate on top of all of these other costs. Don't fall for it.2. Know When Enough is EnoughYes, you're going to have to pay more for your credit privileges than those who have perfect credit. That doesn't mean you should have to pay an arm and a leg.I have seen some bad credit unsecured credit cards offer a credit limit of $250 and then charge an annual fee of about $60, a processing fee of nearly $100 and an application fee of $50 or $60. This leaves you w
7. When it’s your turn to feed the fire, just do it.
When it’s your turn to feed the fire, remember that you are feeding this time and not eating, so what you like really doesn’t matter. Focus on what turns their heat up, not yours. If their fire is burning, don’t worry you will get warm.
8. It takes two.
There must be give and take in every relationship, it is called being thankful and appreciative towards each other. When selfishness gets in and it becomes all about me, all about I, then resentment may start to grow and that waters down any relationship. Stop blaming each other. You can say that you are not putting any wood on the fire because you are not getting any heat and the fireplace can say it is not giving any heat because no one is giving it any wood. Both parties are dependent on each other to have a warm relationship.
9. Don’t hog the heat
If you keep putting logs on the fire and you aren’t getting any heat or comfort out of it, you will eventually stop feeding that fire. You must give out as much as you receive if not more. A good fireplace is designed to give back a good portion of the heat it generates; a poor one allows all the heat to go up the chimney. If your spouse is giving and giving and you are taking and taking, don’t be surprised when the giving stops. It is called balance. Everything in the universe survives on this principle and so does your relationship. You must give in order to receive and if you want more, you must give more. Again, if you are not doing your part, don’t be surprised when the wood stops coming.
10. Take care of the fireplace
Do you remember when you first started dating? You were always on time, dressed to kill, your hair all done up, makeup just right, car or truck all cleaned. Never said a harsh word to each other, some even apologized if they burped out loud. How is it now? Hair in curlers, no make up, yesterdays McDonalds on the floor of the car, fries in the seat, dressed in your work clothes for dinner and going to bed in what looks like your fathers old work out clothes? Do you force out that burp? Do you still hold your tongue when you get upset, or do you treat strangers with kinder words then your spouse? When the fireplace looks and acts like it is all worn out, people start to think about replacing it with a newer model. Take care of yourself, on the outside and the inside. Does it take work? Sure it does. So? A fireplace that is kept well will be well kept.
What if the fire is already or nearly out?
Very often after the fire is almost out with only a few warm coals left, many feel they can throw one little stick on the fire and it will bring a blaze of heat back into the home. They see the sudden flame and feel a bit of heat and go to bed with a smile on their face but before the sun rises, things are just as cold as before. One night out, one bouquet of flowers, one dinner or one compliment and they feel everything should be the same the next day. For relationships that have grown cold, you have to start all over again, feeding it a little at a time. Just like in your courting or dating days; time spent with each other just talking, dinner, a note left behind, a late night phone call about nothing, flowers, candy, and perfume. Remember, when a fire goes out, it is not just the fireplace that cooled off; the entire home did as well. The bricks or stones, furniture, walls floors and ceilings all have to be warmed up and that takes time and energy. If you want that passion back, start small, be consistent and do not give up. It may take doing something small every day for weeks before you really feel the warmth coming back and as soon as you see that small flame, you better fan it and feed it cause it will go out quick if you don’t. After it starts to burn, keep it going and never let it go out again!
Final thoughts:
A relationship requires constant work and attention. The enemy wants us to take all of our focus off of the relationship and apply it elsewhere; knowing that if we keep our eyes off it long enough we will loose it. These principles not only apply for our relationship with our spouse, but also with our children, friends and family and of course our relationship with God. Jesus spoke to the church of Ephesus in Revelation chapter 2 when He said, “You have done great works, but I have this against thee, you have left your first love, remember what you used to do and return to it and repent.” Think back on how you treated each other when you first met, how you talked and the actions you took. Think back to the time when things were great and full of passion and do now what you did then.
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