but you'll take a giant leap forward when you see that you really don't. You ARE doing your best—I have no doubt of that—and you want to love him, but you're not loving him unconditionally, which is the only kind of love that counts. I promise you he doesn't feel loved.

With your disappointment and anger, it's clear that your love for him is condi

The following letter I recently received will strike a chord with millions of married women:

"My husband doesn't do a damned thing around here—chores, sex, bills, the house, food, anything—which means that I carry the burden of doing everything. I'm tired of it, so I've become hyper-critical and constantly dissatisfied with him. Eventually, I get overwhelmed and just quit doing anything, and then it all goes downhill. When we try to discuss anything, it turns into an argument, which is devastating. Then I get demanding, and he gives in and says that I'm right, and he apologizes all over the place. Then he kisses my butt, and I don't respect that either. We both want to be happy, but we keep doing this. I love him, but I'm tired of this. I feel like his parent, and I don't want to be."

As you already know, your nagging is having terrible effects on you, on your husband, and on your marriage.

First, it's destroying your marriage. When you nag your husband, you're irritated of course, and all he hears is "I don't love you." The negative effects of those words cannot be overestimated. It's almost impossible for anything positive to happen after those words have been spoken or heard.

Second, the constant tension creates a terrible burden on you. It's utterly exhausting, isn't it?

There's a way out, and as usual, it's always about Real Love. You said you love your husband, but you'll take a giant leap forward when you see that you really don't. You ARE doing your best—I have no doubt of that—and you want to love him, but you're not loving him unconditionally, which is the only kind of love that counts. I promise you he doesn't feel loved.

With your disappointment and anger, it's clear that your love for him is condit

overwhelmed and just quit doing anything, and then it all goes downhill. When we try to discuss anything, it turns into an argument, which is devastating. Then I get demanding, and he gives in and says that I'm right, and he apologizes all over the place. Then he kisses my butt, and I don't respect that either. We both want to be happy, but we keep doing this. I love him, but I'm tired of this. I feel like his parent, and I don't want to be."

As you already know, your nagging is having terrible effects on you, on your husband, and on your marriage.

First, it's destroying your marriage. When you nag your husband, you're irritated of course, and all he hears is "I don't love you." The negative effects of those words cannot be overestimated. It's almost impossible for anything positive to happen after those words have been spoken or heard.

Second, the constant tension creates a terrible burden on you. It's utterly exhausting, isn't it?

There's a way out, and as usual, it's always about Real Love. You said you love your husband, but you'll take a giant leap forward when you see that you really don't. You ARE doing your best—I have no doubt of that—and you want to love him, but you're not loving him unconditionally, which is the only kind of love that counts. I promise you he doesn't feel loved.

With your disappointment and anger, it's clear that your love for him is condi

g this. I love him, but I'm tired of this. I feel like his parent, and I don't want to be."

As you already know, your nagging is having terrible effects on you, on your husband, and on your marriage.

First, it's destroying your marriage. When you nag your husband, you're irritated of course, and all he hears is "I don't love you." The negative effects of those words cannot be overestimated. It's almost impossible for anything positive to happen after those words have been spoken or heard.

Second, the constant tension creates a terrible burden on you. It's utterly exhausting, isn't it?

There's a way out, and as usual, it's always about Real Love. You said you love your husband, but you'll take a giant leap forward when you see that you really don't. You ARE doing your best—I have no doubt of that—and you want to love him, but you're not loving him unconditionally, which is the only kind of love that counts. I promise you he doesn't feel loved.

With your disappointment and anger, it's clear that your love for him is condi

ve effects of those words cannot be overestimated. It's almost impossible for anything positive to happen after those words have been spoken or heard.

Second, the constant tension creates a terrible burden on you. It's utterly exhausting, isn't it?

There's a way out, and as usual, it's always about Real Love. You said you love your husband, but you'll take a giant leap forward when you see that you really don't. You ARE doing your best—I have no doubt of that—and you want to love him, but you're not loving him unconditionally, which is the only kind of love that counts. I promise you he doesn't feel loved.

With your disappointment and anger, it's clear that your love for him is condi

but you'll take a giant leap forward when you see that you really don't. You ARE doing your best—I have no doubt of that—and you want to love him, but you're not loving him unconditionally, which is the only kind of love that counts. I promise you he doesn't feel loved.

With your disappointment and anger, it's clear that your love for him is conditional, and that is very common in marriages. Don't feel guilty about it. The only reason you don't love him unconditionally is that you've never received enough Real Love yourself—from parents and others—to be able to give him any.

So what can you do? The most important thing is to find enough Real Love that you can bring that quality to your marriage. That will change everything. Tell the truth about your mistakes—as a person, as a wife—to some friends. You can read about how to do that in the book, Real Love, and in the book, Real Love for Wise Men and Women. As you tell the truth about yourself, you'll create opportunities for other people to accept and love you unconditionally.

As you love your husband, miracles will happen:

First, the conflicts you're having will stop. When you have enough Real Love, you have the greatest treasure in the universe. No kidding. When you have twenty million dollars, you don't tend to fuss over each two dollars that you don't get or any two dollars that's taken from you. You'll discover that a sock on the floor, for example, is just a sock. Right now, when you see a sock on the floor, you hear it crying out in your husbands voice, "I don't love you." You see it as a piece of evidence that he doesn't care about you—which is true—and that makes you crazy..

Second, your husband will tend to do more thing around the house. Imagine that you're