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Relocating to Auburn, AL (e.g. for fun, looks, weight etc). It avoids wasting
energy on blaming or becoming defensive. Understanding will lead to
action and a remedy- doing nothing doesn't work. Wrong time, wrong
place- anyone can be a victim.Home to Auburn University, Auburn is the fastest growing metropolitan area in Alabama. If you enjoy a college atmosphere, relocating to Auburn is an excellent choice.Auburn is the largest city in eastern Alabama with an estimated population of 49,928, according to the U.S. Census statistics in 2005. It is estimated the population rose by over 16% since 2000, adding nearly 7,000 people and revealing people are relocating to Auburn. By 2003, Auburn's population had grown by 65% in just 25 years. The population density is on the rise, however. There are 1,098.6 people per square mile in the city. Compare that with the state average of 87.6.With a large undergraduate program, Auburn University has nearly 20,000 students enrolled annually. That may explain why nearly 61% of all households were non-families, according to the census bureau. The median age of its residents is also affected, averaging 22.6 years, significantly below the state and national average. Just over 77% of the population is white non-hispanic; 16.8% are black. The crime index in 2004 was slightly above the national average. Job expansion since the early 80s has climbed 1,200%, primarily due to increasing industrial employment. The average family income is high at $55,619, but with the student community the average household income drops to $17,206 yearly. About 14% of families and 38% of the population were below the poverty line.Housing starts in Auburn have soared since 1970. During a 20-year stretch, rapid growth led to the construction of many apartment complexes to cater to students relocating to Auburn. Nowadays, many more students are living off-campus. Less than a quarter of all students live in university housing. The average monthly rent in Auburn is affordable at $446. Home values on average are $138,700. As a rapidly growing area, Auburn has sprawled to approximately 3. Build your Self-Esteem Children need to build their self-esteem in order to handle bullies and to create a better social life for themselves. Children need constant feedback as a constructive tool for gaining self-esteem. 4. Becoming a confident communicator Children need to improve their communication skills to deal with bullying. Children need help from teachers and parents to project a positive confident image- that is, not to be scared, but to be prepared. 5. Empowering the individual Design a plan of action that will empower the victim. Ensure that children are well prepared to frustrate the bullies attempt to hurt them. Remind the individual that bullies love secrecy and hate publicity. 6. Develop a support network Children who are active participants in a social group cope better than those who try to survive on their own. Children need to develop social skills to improve their support network at school. Parents need to know how to help their children develop these networks both in and out of school. Why children with special needs may be bullied Children can be victimised because they look different. Being physically or mentally handicapped, can set up a child for victimisation. Children who have lower than average intelligence or who are experiences learning difficulties often have problems coping with ordinary class work, and may require special attention inside or outside the classroom. This can make them feel excluded and can cause them to have greater difficultly integrating socially. Many are sensitive about their work difficulties, seeing any teasing as criticism and reacting in an aggressive or provocative manner. Children with learning difficulties will often hide their lack of understanding for fear of being teased for being "stupid. At the same time, some of their peers may resent these children rece Life Insurance and Alcohol are not a Good Mix * Class Brainstorming - DefineAlcohol is regarded as an antiseptic or a preservative in some cases, but its effect on life insurance costs can be anything but benign. You will almost certainly be asked for information about your alcohol consumption when you apply for life insurance, and it is likely that NHS guidelines will be consulted to determine whether you within the safe level. If your drinking is deemed to have reached the ‘potentially dangerous’ bracket, the cost of your policy may come as a considerable shock.Medical practitioners provide information to insurers regarding the health problems caused by excessive drinking, for consideration when premiums are calculated. Many other factors have to be brought into life insurance risk assessment, but with the Drink Aware Trust along with the British Chiropractic Association finding that 66% of the population admit to excessive drinking once a week at least, the statistics have to be taken very seriously.Don’t want to admit it? Not very surprising really, but it would be foolish to try to keep the information from a potential insurer. Remember that all insurance policies will carry a penalty relating to falsified or withheld information; if the concealed facts are of sufficient significance the policy may be declared invalid.You may think that your insurers will have no way of knowing whether you were a drinker or not, after your death. Even if they could establish that you did enjoy alcoholic drinks, how could they know whether the extent of your drinking was excessive?It may or may not depend on how heavily you were drinking and for how long. There is however no point in deciding that you will cut down in later life to hide the fact. This approach gives rise to several questions. How do you know that you are going to get any ‘later life’ – has some genie of the bottle given you a firm date for your departure? Do - Different types of bullying - Some examples of these * Our Definition * Types of bullying and examples * Why some children bully * How to recognise a bully- seven elements * How to recognise a victim- signs of a bullied child * Group work- Scenarios * Strategies to support bullies- how to prevent bullying * Strategies to support victims * Why children with special needs may be bullied * Effects of bullying * Group work- Creative tasks * Conclusion OUR DEFINITION Bullying involves the psychological, emotional, social or physical harassment of one or more person by another individual or group. It includes behaviours and actions that are verbal, physical and/or antisocial. Different types of bullying =========================== There are four main categories that types of bullying come under. These being: psychological, emotional, social and physical harassment. Some examples of different types of bullying Emotional and Psychological- This can include: name calling, intimidation, verbal teasing, and gestures that imply later violence Verbal-This can include: laughing, giggling, whispering, yelling, verbal threats, spreading rumours, name calling, Social-This can include: exclusion, name calling, teasing, ignoring, mimicking, nasty notes, pointing, staring, making faces, spreading rumours, demanding money or threatening behaviour Physical-This can include: pushing, shoving, hitting, kicking, punching, flicking, theft, throwing victims belongings, breaking/hiding/pushing over or interfering with victims belongings, pulling hair, tearing clothes or belongings, stalking, using weapons (Field.M, 1999, pg 20-23) Why some children bully In order to help victims of bullying to help themselves, there is a need to have some idea why some children bully, how and why they are given opportunities to do so, and how we can monitor, reduce and eventually eliminate bullying. These are some reasons why children bully: * Some bullies are simply bored, and see bullying as fun * Children sometimes tease simply to get a reaction * The bully believes that bullying makes them more popular or better accepted by their peers * Most bullies often have difficulty dealing with their own feelings, so they focus on the feelings of others instead. * Some children are frustrated and prefer to pass on this frustration by bulling rather than dealing with it themselves * Bullying provides the bully with attention from their peer group, at the victims cost * Some bullies believe that aggressiveness provides them with status, control, power and feelings of belonging * Some children believe aggression is the only way to resolve conflict. * Bullies can be the smart popular children who abuse roles of power and leadership and use them to hurt others * Some teachers do not take bullying seriously- they simply believe the children are playing around How to recognise a bully Bullies are people who tease, frighten, threaten or hurt others who are not as strong as they are. Most bullies work on their victims fear. They manipulate their victims to exist in a state of fear, reminding them regularly with a look or other action, verbal or non-verbal, of what might happen to them. Some children only bully when they are with friends or a gang. They think they are being "cool". Bullies are sometimes regarded as being strong and powerful, and are often popular and admired by other children. (Field.M, 1999, pg 31) Bullying has been shown to incorporate seven elements: * There is an initial desire to hurt whether it be physical or emotional * Desire is expressed in action * Someone is hurt * The action is directed by a more powerful person or group against someone less powerful * It is without justification * It is typically repeated * It is done with evident enjoyment How to recognise a victim The child who is most likely to become a victim is very sensitive and easily hurt. They show distress very clearly. They are more likely to be anxious, cautious, submissive, non assertive, and quieter than the other children. Some children are shy, others lack common social skills. Their facial expressions and body language can often show how they are feeling, whether it be happy, sad, angry, hurt or even show a look of powerlessness. More often than not, at least for a period of time, these children deny or reject help. They claim that they can cope, when realistically they are struggling to handle the situation. If a child is generally sad at school, or not happy a good deal of the time, it is essential that you talk to them to try to discover what is causing their unhappiness. (Field.M, 1999, pg 20) Signs usually displayed by a child being bullied: * If a child is frequently involved in fights * Money/lunch/or other belonging being taken or damaged * Bruises/cuts or torn clothing * Often tired- indicating child not sleeping well * Tries to stay with teacher during breaks * Lack of participation in class activities * Sitting alone in class or on playground * Does not want to go to school * Appears sad/depressed/withdrawn * Sudden changes in behaviour, e.g. moody * Shows more signs of anger than usual * Denies unhappiness and claims to be fine * Has low self-esteem * Made fun of and laughed at * Very few friends * Chosen last for teams or games Strategies to support bullies * As a teacher- reinforce the need/expectation, that all children treat each other with courtesy and respect. * Teach bullies assertive communication skills within the context of the normal class so that they can learn more effective ways of relating to others. * Encourage families to model appropriate behaviour for them- if children are brought up by parents who display inappropriate behaviours, they cannot be blamed for copying their role models. *Inappropriate behaviour of children should be dealt immediately with in an assertive, non-threatening way. * Schools should adopt a policy of non-tolerance, outlining non-acceptable behaviours- most bullies know which behaviours are acceptable and which are not. * Reinforce positive behaviour * Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim. *It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines. * As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling. Strategies to support victims * Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem * Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening * Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem * Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you * At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim * You need to express confidence that something can be done to fix the problem and stop it from occurring in the future * If the child has been physically hurt and has bruises or cuts or if their belonging have been damages make sure principal and parents are informed and an incident report is filled out for future reference. * Find out how the child has been suffering and how they feel about it * Have a guest speaker visit the school to talk about confidence and some mental strategies children can use to build confidence * Run a "victims support group" this can be done discreetly without whole class knowledge 6 steps for a victim to deal with bullying 1. Deal with your feelings It is very important for children who are bullied to identify what they are feeling. Dealing with our feelings mobilises us to action. Expressing feelings is a form of power. Children can abuse, lose or use this power. 2. Understand why you were bullied It is extremely important for the victim to understand why they have been bullied, (e.g. for fun, looks, weight etc). It avoids wasting energy on blaming or becoming defensive. Understanding will lead to action and a remedy- doing nothing doesn't work. Wrong time, wrong place- anyone can be a victim. 3. Build your Self-Esteem Children need to build their self-esteem in order to handle bullies and to create a better social life for themselves. Children need constant feedback as a constructive tool for gaining self-esteem. 4. Becoming a confident communicator Children need to improve their communication skills to deal with bullying. Children need help from teachers and parents to project a positive confident image- that is, not to be scared, but to be prepared. 5. Empowering the individual Design a plan of action that will empower the victim. Ensure that children are well prepared to frustrate the bullies attempt to hurt them. Remind the individual that bullies love secrecy and hate publicity. 6. Develop a support network Children who are active participants in a social group cope better than those who try to survive on their own. Children need to develop social skills to improve their support network at school. Parents need to know how to help their children develop these networks both in and out of school. Why children with special needs may be bullied Children can be victimised because they look different. Being physically or mentally handicapped, can set up a child for victimisation. Children who have lower than average intelligence or who are experiences learning difficulties often have problems coping with ordinary class work, and may require special attention inside or outside the classroom. This can make them feel excluded and can cause them to have greater difficultly integrating socially. Many are sensitive about their work difficulties, seeing any teasing as criticism and reacting in an aggressive or provocative manner. Children with learning difficulties will often hide their lack of understanding for fear of being teased for being "stupid. At the same time, some of their peers may resent these children rece There Are 20 Questions To Ask Before You Pick A Loan es are simply bored, and see bullying as funThe most fundamental questions about any loan concern how long you’ll have to repay the amount you borrowed, how much interest you’ll be charged and whether the interest rate and payments are fixed for the entire term or subject to periodic adjustments as market interest rates fluctuate.Here are four questions to ask:* 1. What is the term of this loan?* 2. What is the initial interest rate?* 3. Is that rate fixed or adjustable?* 4. How much would my initial monthly payments be?If the interest rate on the loan is adjustable, your monthly payment likely will change in the future and could be much higher than your initial payment.Here are some questions to ask on this topic:* 5. When can the interest rate be adjusted?* 6. How will the interest rate be calculated?* 7. What is the maximum interest rate increase for each adjustment period?* 8. What is the maximum interest rate increase over the lifetime of the loan?* 9. How much would my payment be today if the interest rate were calculated as it will be at the first adjustment period?* 10. How much would my payment be at the maximum interest rate?* 11. Could the amount I owe increase over time?Along with the interest rate and payment, you’ll want to consider the upfront and ongoing fees and costs you’ll be charged in connection with the loan.Here are some questions to ask regarding costs and fees:* 12. Can I see a Good Faith Estimate (GFE) for this loan?* 13. Which of the costs on the GFE might change and by how much?* 14. Are there any other costs that aren’t on the GFE?* 15. Does this loan have a prepayment penalty?* 16. Would this loan require an escrow account for homeowner’s insurance and property taxes?< * Children sometimes tease simply to get a reaction * The bully believes that bullying makes them more popular or better accepted by their peers * Most bullies often have difficulty dealing with their own feelings, so they focus on the feelings of others instead. * Some children are frustrated and prefer to pass on this frustration by bulling rather than dealing with it themselves * Bullying provides the bully with attention from their peer group, at the victims cost * Some bullies believe that aggressiveness provides them with status, control, power and feelings of belonging * Some children believe aggression is the only way to resolve conflict. * Bullies can be the smart popular children who abuse roles of power and leadership and use them to hurt others * Some teachers do not take bullying seriously- they simply believe the children are playing around How to recognise a bully Bullies are people who tease, frighten, threaten or hurt others who are not as strong as they are. Most bullies work on their victims fear. They manipulate their victims to exist in a state of fear, reminding them regularly with a look or other action, verbal or non-verbal, of what might happen to them. Some children only bully when they are with friends or a gang. They think they are being "cool". Bullies are sometimes regarded as being strong and powerful, and are often popular and admired by other children. (Field.M, 1999, pg 31) Bullying has been shown to incorporate seven elements: * There is an initial desire to hurt whether it be physical or emotional * Desire is expressed in action * Someone is hurt * The action is directed by a more powerful person or group against someone less powerful * It is without justification * It is typically repeated * It is done with evident enjoyment How to recognise a victim The child who is most likely to become a victim is very sensitive and easily hurt. They show distress very clearly. They are more likely to be anxious, cautious, submissive, non assertive, and quieter than the other children. Some children are shy, others lack common social skills. Their facial expressions and body language can often show how they are feeling, whether it be happy, sad, angry, hurt or even show a look of powerlessness. More often than not, at least for a period of time, these children deny or reject help. They claim that they can cope, when realistically they are struggling to handle the situation. If a child is generally sad at school, or not happy a good deal of the time, it is essential that you talk to them to try to discover what is causing their unhappiness. (Field.M, 1999, pg 20) Signs usually displayed by a child being bullied: * If a child is frequently involved in fights * Money/lunch/or other belonging being taken or damaged * Bruises/cuts or torn clothing * Often tired- indicating child not sleeping well * Tries to stay with teacher during breaks * Lack of participation in class activities * Sitting alone in class or on playground * Does not want to go to school * Appears sad/depressed/withdrawn * Sudden changes in behaviour, e.g. moody * Shows more signs of anger than usual * Denies unhappiness and claims to be fine * Has low self-esteem * Made fun of and laughed at * Very few friends * Chosen last for teams or games Strategies to support bullies * As a teacher- reinforce the need/expectation, that all children treat each other with courtesy and respect. * Teach bullies assertive communication skills within the context of the normal class so that they can learn more effective ways of relating to others. * Encourage families to model appropriate behaviour for them- if children are brought up by parents who display inappropriate behaviours, they cannot be blamed for copying their role models. *Inappropriate behaviour of children should be dealt immediately with in an assertive, non-threatening way. * Schools should adopt a policy of non-tolerance, outlining non-acceptable behaviours- most bullies know which behaviours are acceptable and which are not. * Reinforce positive behaviour * Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim. *It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines. * As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling. Strategies to support victims * Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem * Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening * Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem * Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you * At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim * You need to express confidence that something can be done to fix the problem and stop it from occurring in the future * If the child has been physically hurt and has bruises or cuts or if their belonging have been damages make sure principal and parents are informed and an incident report is filled out for future reference. * Find out how the child has been suffering and how they feel about it * Have a guest speaker visit the school to talk about confidence and some mental strategies children can use to build confidence * Run a "victims support group" this can be done discreetly without whole class knowledge 6 steps for a victim to deal with bullying 1. Deal with your feelings It is very important for children who are bullied to identify what they are feeling. Dealing with our feelings mobilises us to action. Expressing feelings is a form of power. Children can abuse, lose or use this power. 2. Understand why you were bullied It is extremely important for the victim to understand why they have been bullied, (e.g. for fun, looks, weight etc). It avoids wasting energy on blaming or becoming defensive. Understanding will lead to action and a remedy- doing nothing doesn't work. Wrong time, wrong place- anyone can be a victim. 3. Build your Self-Esteem Children need to build their self-esteem in order to handle bullies and to create a better social life for themselves. Children need constant feedback as a constructive tool for gaining self-esteem. 4. Becoming a confident communicator Children need to improve their communication skills to deal with bullying. Children need help from teachers and parents to project a positive confident image- that is, not to be scared, but to be prepared. 5. Empowering the individual Design a plan of action that will empower the victim. Ensure that children are well prepared to frustrate the bullies attempt to hurt them. Remind the individual that bullies love secrecy and hate publicity. 6. Develop a support network Children who are active participants in a social group cope better than those who try to survive on their own. Children need to develop social skills to improve their support network at school. Parents need to know how to help their children develop these networks both in and out of school. Why children with special needs may be bullied Children can be victimised because they look different. Being physically or mentally handicapped, can set up a child for victimisation. Children who have lower than average intelligence or who are experiences learning difficulties often have problems coping with ordinary class work, and may require special attention inside or outside the classroom. This can make them feel excluded and can cause them to have greater difficultly integrating socially. Many are sensitive about their work difficulties, seeing any teasing as criticism and reacting in an aggressive or provocative manner. Children with learning difficulties will often hide their lack of understanding for fear of being teased for being "stupid. At the same time, some of their peers may resent these children rece Today's Advanced Laptop vs. the Desktop PC , cautious, submissive, non assertive, and quieter than the
other children. Some children are shy, others lack common social
skills. Their facial expressions and body language can often show how
they are feeling, whether it be happy, sad, angry, hurt or even show a
look of powerlessness. More often than not, at least for a period of
time, these children deny or reject help. They claim that they can
cope, when realistically they are struggling to handle the situation.
If a child is generally sad at school, or not happy a good deal of the
time, it is essential that you talk to them to try to discover what is
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As well as becoming a replacement for a desktop PC the advanced laptop computer should provide the same flexibility in configurations and expandability.A fully featured laptop uses advanced technologies such as mobile Pentium, PCI, plug and play, lithium-ion batteries, and hot docking to give users the same capabilities as their desktop computers. As users became familiar with their laptops they demanded that their mobile computers have the same functionality as their desktops. Thus began the emergence of ever more faster processors, high resolution wide-screen displays, bigger hard drives and multiple external devices.The advanced laptop computer of today features capabilities such as instant-on. Instant-on is a feature that allows users to put their laptop into a power-conserving state and later resume working exactly where they left off. Advanced laptop computers focus on size, power, compatibility and performance. 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These manufacturers are fully aware that their customers e Signs usually displayed by a child being bullied: * If a child is frequently involved in fights * Money/lunch/or other belonging being taken or damaged * Bruises/cuts or torn clothing * Often tired- indicating child not sleeping well * Tries to stay with teacher during breaks * Lack of participation in class activities * Sitting alone in class or on playground * Does not want to go to school * Appears sad/depressed/withdrawn * Sudden changes in behaviour, e.g. moody * Shows more signs of anger than usual * Denies unhappiness and claims to be fine * Has low self-esteem * Made fun of and laughed at * Very few friends * Chosen last for teams or games Strategies to support bullies * As a teacher- reinforce the need/expectation, that all children treat each other with courtesy and respect. * Teach bullies assertive communication skills within the context of the normal class so that they can learn more effective ways of relating to others. * Encourage families to model appropriate behaviour for them- if children are brought up by parents who display inappropriate behaviours, they cannot be blamed for copying their role models. *Inappropriate behaviour of children should be dealt immediately with in an assertive, non-threatening way. * Schools should adopt a policy of non-tolerance, outlining non-acceptable behaviours- most bullies know which behaviours are acceptable and which are not. * Reinforce positive behaviour * Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim. *It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines. * As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling. Strategies to support victims * Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem * Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening * Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem * Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you * At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim * You need to express confidence that something can be done to fix the problem and stop it from occurring in the future * If the child has been physically hurt and has bruises or cuts or if their belonging have been damages make sure principal and parents are informed and an incident report is filled out for future reference. * Find out how the child has been suffering and how they feel about it * Have a guest speaker visit the school to talk about confidence and some mental strategies children can use to build confidence * Run a "victims support group" this can be done discreetly without whole class knowledge 6 steps for a victim to deal with bullying 1. Deal with your feelings It is very important for children who are bullied to identify what they are feeling. Dealing with our feelings mobilises us to action. Expressing feelings is a form of power. Children can abuse, lose or use this power. 2. Understand why you were bullied It is extremely important for the victim to understand why they have been bullied, (e.g. for fun, looks, weight etc). It avoids wasting energy on blaming or becoming defensive. Understanding will lead to action and a remedy- doing nothing doesn't work. Wrong time, wrong place- anyone can be a victim. 3. Build your Self-Esteem Children need to build their self-esteem in order to handle bullies and to create a better social life for themselves. Children need constant feedback as a constructive tool for gaining self-esteem. 4. Becoming a confident communicator Children need to improve their communication skills to deal with bullying. Children need help from teachers and parents to project a positive confident image- that is, not to be scared, but to be prepared. 5. Empowering the individual Design a plan of action that will empower the victim. Ensure that children are well prepared to frustrate the bullies attempt to hurt them. Remind the individual that bullies love secrecy and hate publicity. 6. Develop a support network Children who are active participants in a social group cope better than those who try to survive on their own. Children need to develop social skills to improve their support network at school. Parents need to know how to help their children develop these networks both in and out of school. Why children with special needs may be bullied Children can be victimised because they look different. Being physically or mentally handicapped, can set up a child for victimisation. Children who have lower than average intelligence or who are experiences learning difficulties often have problems coping with ordinary class work, and may require special attention inside or outside the classroom. This can make them feel excluded and can cause them to have greater difficultly integrating socially. Many are sensitive about their work difficulties, seeing any teasing as criticism and reacting in an aggressive or provocative manner. Children with learning difficulties will often hide their lack of understanding for fear of being teased for being "stupid. At the same time, some of their peers may resent these children rece Great Britain and Tony Blair in a Bind Over the Iranian Nuke Crisis and Showdown llies know which behaviours are
acceptable and which are not.Great Britain in their parliament is now stating that this is no time to be weak on the War on International Terrorism, as Iran promises to blow Israel off the map and continues to fund International Terrorist Cells around the World. Indeed there is also concern over Iran’s sending of insurgents into Iraq to kill Coalition Troops as well.Boy this sure puts Tony Blair is a bind. They have to really watch their backs as International Terrorists cells are known by British Intelligence to be parked in their country and the President of Iran, a Nation State which sponsors international terrorism, has said he will order strikes on civilian populations if anyone tries to stop their Nuclear Weapons ambitions. They need to stay tough, and it appears France is talking tough too now.Meanwhile many do believe that the writing is on the wall for intervention and that Syria has been added to the list by Israel as part of what the Israel Intelligence is now calling the “Axis of Evil” and so we all march closer to war? But nevertheless Great Britain is determined to remain strong and do what is necessary, without sending troops into Iran. So perhaps everyone is more on board than we might think for getting this done? Consider this in 2006. * Reinforce positive behaviour * Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim. *It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines. * As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling. Strategies to support victims * Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem * Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening * Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem * Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you * At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim * You need to express confidence that something can be done to fix the problem and stop it from occurring in the future * If the child has been physically hurt and has bruises or cuts or if their belonging have been damages make sure principal and parents are informed and an incident report is filled out for future reference. * Find out how the child has been suffering and how they feel about it * Have a guest speaker visit the school to talk about confidence and some mental strategies children can use to build confidence * Run a "victims support group" this can be done discreetly without whole class knowledge 6 steps for a victim to deal with bullying 1. Deal with your feelings It is very important for children who are bullied to identify what they are feeling. Dealing with our feelings mobilises us to action. Expressing feelings is a form of power. Children can abuse, lose or use this power. 2. Understand why you were bullied It is extremely important for the victim to understand why they have been bullied, (e.g. for fun, looks, weight etc). It avoids wasting energy on blaming or becoming defensive. Understanding will lead to action and a remedy- doing nothing doesn't work. Wrong time, wrong place- anyone can be a victim. 3. Build your Self-Esteem Children need to build their self-esteem in order to handle bullies and to create a better social life for themselves. Children need constant feedback as a constructive tool for gaining self-esteem. 4. Becoming a confident communicator Children need to improve their communication skills to deal with bullying. Children need help from teachers and parents to project a positive confident image- that is, not to be scared, but to be prepared. 5. Empowering the individual Design a plan of action that will empower the victim. Ensure that children are well prepared to frustrate the bullies attempt to hurt them. Remind the individual that bullies love secrecy and hate publicity. 6. Develop a support network Children who are active participants in a social group cope better than those who try to survive on their own. Children need to develop social skills to improve their support network at school. Parents need to know how to help their children develop these networks both in and out of school. Why children with special needs may be bullied Children can be victimised because they look different. Being physically or mentally handicapped, can set up a child for victimisation. Children who have lower than average intelligence or who are experiences learning difficulties often have problems coping with ordinary class work, and may require special attention inside or outside the classroom. This can make them feel excluded and can cause them to have greater difficultly integrating socially. Many are sensitive about their work difficulties, seeing any teasing as criticism and reacting in an aggressive or provocative manner. Children with learning difficulties will often hide their lack of understanding for fear of being teased for being "stupid. At the same time, some of their peers may resent these children rece Can Debt Counselors Help You Get Out Of Debt Faster? (e.g. for fun, looks, weight etc). It avoids wasting
energy on blaming or becoming defensive. Understanding will lead to
action and a remedy- doing nothing doesn't work. Wrong time, wrong
place- anyone can be a victim.Debt counseling can be helpful for many people who are dealing with excessive amounts of debt. They can offer specialized skills and knowledge about various debt reduction methods and whether the various programs available are helpful or just scams.One of the most helpful factors about working with a debt counselor is having someone to hold you accountable for paying off your debts as well as helping you see the light at the end of the tunnel.People who have excessive amounts of debt are often struggling to keep themselves ahead of the debt collectors. Having someone who can help them find their way out can be invaluable.A debt counselor will look at a person's financial situation and help them develop a realistic, workable solution for paying off the debt as quickly as possible. After all, getting out of debt is as much about responsibility and willpower as it is about numbers on a page.There are disadvantages to using a debt counselor in some cases, however. If a person is not truly committed to dealing with their debt problem, they may come to rely on the debt counselor as a sort of "crutch" rather than a partner to work with. Unless they take responsibility themselves, a debt counselor may be of no real help.The real key to successful debt counseling is for both people to be committed to the process. The counselor needs to be committed to helping the person work out a realistic plan of attack and - perhaps more importantly - the person in debt needs to be committed to following that plan once it's laid out.Without that commitment, the relationship and the process of debt reduction is doomed to fail. 3. Build your Self-Esteem Children need to build their self-esteem in order to handle bullies and to create a better social life for themselves. Children need constant feedback as a constructive tool for gaining self-esteem. 4. Becoming a confident communicator Children need to improve their communication skills to deal with bullying. Children need help from teachers and parents to project a positive confident image- that is, not to be scared, but to be prepared. 5. Empowering the individual Design a plan of action that will empower the victim. Ensure that children are well prepared to frustrate the bullies attempt to hurt them. Remind the individual that bullies love secrecy and hate publicity. 6. Develop a support network Children who are active participants in a social group cope better than those who try to survive on their own. Children need to develop social skills to improve their support network at school. Parents need to know how to help their children develop these networks both in and out of school. Why children with special needs may be bullied Children can be victimised because they look different. Being physically or mentally handicapped, can set up a child for victimisation. Children who have lower than average intelligence or who are experiences learning difficulties often have problems coping with ordinary class work, and may require special attention inside or outside the classroom. This can make them feel excluded and can cause them to have greater difficultly integrating socially. Many are sensitive about their work difficulties, seeing any teasing as criticism and reacting in an aggressive or provocative manner. Children with learning difficulties will often hide their lack of understanding for fear of being teased for being "stupid. At the same time, some of their peers may resent these children receive special attention and this can be a reason to bully them. Another reason that children with special needs can be bullied is because their peers do not understand the child's disability. Rather than trying to understand why the disabled child is different, it is simply easier to bully them." Effects of bullying Some people believe that while bullying can be hurtful and painful, they fail to realise the impact it can have in a child's life. Bullying, whether it be social, emotional, physical or psychological, can cause a range of short and long term effects for both the bully and the victim Effect for the bully: * After a while the bully loses their power, his popularity will diminish and they can end up being a social drop out * After a while the bully's friends can get tired and reject their manipulative ways * Due to their inability to deal with conflict or violence they have problems in relationships later in life both platonic and intimate. Effects for the victim: * Bullying can lead to poor self-esteem, bouts of depression, and social isolation in adulthood * They continued to be bullied at work or at home. They are easily taken advantage of * The quality of education they receive is often severely diminished * They are scared to socialise and find it hard to make friends, as other children fear they will be bullies for being friends with that person * The friends they do make would probably not be caring or consoling and probably would not support them in times of need * Children can develop a sense of hopelessness. Due to constant bulling the feel powerless and cannot see beyond the constant fear and depression. * In extreme cases, due to the constant barrage from bullies over an extended period of time some children can develop suicidal tendencies. This may not be as relevant in the primary years but it is the lack of stopping it at this early age, which can prevent this from happening. James is the most popular boy in his grade. One day at school he made a mean remark to one of the boys in his class- not intending to be nasty, he just did not think about what he was saying. His friends all laughed and though this was funny and encouraged James to keep acting this way towards the boy. Although he did not want to, James continued this behaviour. Why might James have felt like this? What are some ways he could have stopped this behaviour from happening? Jenny just moved to Australia from New Zealand. She did not realise that she had an accent until she was at school and heard other girls whispering about how weird she spoke. Although the girls did not say anything directly to her, Jenny could always hear them whispering about it. What type of bullying is this and how might Jenny deal with this? Simon is young for his year and is quite gifted at school. He is exceptionally bright but has very poor social skills. He feels (and quite often tells them) that he is superior to his peers. He boasts about his achievements and will cut people off when trying to talk to him as they are incapable to carry on a "intellectually stimulating" conversation with him. Due to this people avoid him and he is starved for attention and often disrupts the class. What are some ways in which Simon can be helped? How can this be done? Maria knew that she was not the most popular girl at school but she has many friends. One day at school there was a note going around that had a nasty rumour about her on it. These notes kept appearing on a regular basis, but as hard as the teacher tried they could not find the origin of where they were coming from. What are some actions Maria can take? GROUP WORK- DESIGN TASKS Develop a slogan/catch phrase against bullying (1-2 sentences) Explain how and why this would work Design a poster to help prevent bulling Develop an organisation within a school designed to help both victims and bullies themselves. (Similar to a victims support group). Give this group a name, some rules and explain the concept behind this group and how it would work. Design a 5-step process to deal with a child when they have bullied someone. How would you enforce it and monitor their progress in completing these steps.
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