p>If she agrees to move around the bar with you, then she’s more likely to agree to move to the next club or bar with you. If she comes to the next bar with you, she’s more likely to come home with you. If she’s with friends you may need to merge their group with yours for this to work. Otherwise moving her around the club is better than nothing.

Spreading the time you have together over several different places install of all in one place makes it seem like you’ve been together for longer. Since she’s moving from place to place with you it also makes it into a sort of instant date, like you are already together.

Don’t get her Too Horny

One way to blow things is to let her get too horny in the club. If she realises she can’t control herself around you she may freak out and retreat to the safety of her friends. It’s much better to limit things to kissing until you get her somewhere wh

It's your last night in town. You meet a girl, and she's everything you want in a woman. She's a great kisser, you have loads in common, and you find you can talk to her about anything. You take her on to the dance floor where you discover she's a great mover - and you know exactly what that means for later on. Her friends are cool. They like you, and they practically push her into your arms. They even give you permission to take her home, but for some reason, she doesn't want to go.

Have you ever had this happen to you? I have, and I've seen it happen to other guys countless times. It's not the end of the world, but when you’re on the bus home with your friends you can’t help imagining how much more fun you’d be having with her in a taxi back to yours. So… why does it happen, and what can you do about it?

It’s important to remember that girls want to get laid just as much as guys. Sometimes they hide it very well though. While they certainly have a strong desire for sex, most girls have a bigger desire to not look like a slut. If you meet a girl in the situation above, and she doesn’t care what other people think, it’s time to call a cab.

That’s nice when it happens, but sometimes it’s actually more fun when things aren’t so easy. If you work hard for something then you feel like it’s worth more to you, a principle that is often at the back of a girls mind when she’s making you jump through a few hoops to get to her.

One way to take a girl home is to just get extremely drunk with her. When people get drunk they start making decisions based on their emotions instead of what other people think. However unless your bedroom is only a couple of minutes away from the club, this emotional state can fade pretty quickly once the two of you are outside and sobering up in the fresh air. She’ll go from tearing at your pants to stressing about what her friends are going to think of her - in the blink of an eye.

The magic bullet for overcoming this obstacle is Romance, and it doesn’t take much to make the situation more romantic.

Have an Innocent Excuse

If at the end of the evening you invite a girl to come back with you, she knows what’s up, and she knows what her friends will think and what she’ll think of herself. She’ll even worry about what you will think of her in the morning.

But, if you have an innocent excuse for her to come in, for example to show her some photos, then romance comes in to play. She can tell her friends “well, we went back to his place to look at his new widescreen TV, and then things just sort of happened.”

It doesn’t matter what the excuse is, but it should be less transparent than ‘coffee’. Ideally, it will be something you’ve already told her about earlier in the evening.

One time, on the way back from the pub I invited a girl back to my place for coffee. She declined, which was a good job because I didn’t actually have any. So then I offered juice, again she declined. I suggested she come in to look at my photos. No. Did she want to watch an episode of Friends? No. Ok. I told her I’d had a great time and would call her soon. Did she want to pop in to use the toilet?

She did, and after she’d used it we had juice while looking at my photos. In the morning we watched an episode of Friends on my widescreen TV.

Move Her Around

Another way to make things more romantic is to move her around a bit. If you meet her by the bar, take her over to the dance floor. If you meet her on the dance floor, take her over to the sofas. Most decent venues have several different areas, so every so often, move her somewhere.

If she agrees to move around the bar with you, then she’s more likely to agree to move to the next club or bar with you. If she comes to the next bar with you, she’s more likely to come home with you. If she’s with friends you may need to merge their group with yours for this to work. Otherwise moving her around the club is better than nothing.

Spreading the time you have together over several different places install of all in one place makes it seem like you’ve been together for longer. Since she’s moving from place to place with you it also makes it into a sort of instant date, like you are already together.

Don’t get her Too Horny

One way to blow things is to let her get too horny in the club. If she realises she can’t control herself around you she may freak out and retreat to the safety of her friends. It’s much better to limit things to kissing until you get her somewhere whe

they hide it very well though. While they certainly have a strong desire for sex, most girls have a bigger desire to not look like a slut. If you meet a girl in the situation above, and she doesn’t care what other people think, it’s time to call a cab.

That’s nice when it happens, but sometimes it’s actually more fun when things aren’t so easy. If you work hard for something then you feel like it’s worth more to you, a principle that is often at the back of a girls mind when she’s making you jump through a few hoops to get to her.

One way to take a girl home is to just get extremely drunk with her. When people get drunk they start making decisions based on their emotions instead of what other people think. However unless your bedroom is only a couple of minutes away from the club, this emotional state can fade pretty quickly once the two of you are outside and sobering up in the fresh air. She’ll go from tearing at your pants to stressing about what her friends are going to think of her - in the blink of an eye.

The magic bullet for overcoming this obstacle is Romance, and it doesn’t take much to make the situation more romantic.

Have an Innocent Excuse

If at the end of the evening you invite a girl to come back with you, she knows what’s up, and she knows what her friends will think and what she’ll think of herself. She’ll even worry about what you will think of her in the morning.

But, if you have an innocent excuse for her to come in, for example to show her some photos, then romance comes in to play. She can tell her friends “well, we went back to his place to look at his new widescreen TV, and then things just sort of happened.”

It doesn’t matter what the excuse is, but it should be less transparent than ‘coffee’. Ideally, it will be something you’ve already told her about earlier in the evening.

One time, on the way back from the pub I invited a girl back to my place for coffee. She declined, which was a good job because I didn’t actually have any. So then I offered juice, again she declined. I suggested she come in to look at my photos. No. Did she want to watch an episode of Friends? No. Ok. I told her I’d had a great time and would call her soon. Did she want to pop in to use the toilet?

She did, and after she’d used it we had juice while looking at my photos. In the morning we watched an episode of Friends on my widescreen TV.

Move Her Around

Another way to make things more romantic is to move her around a bit. If you meet her by the bar, take her over to the dance floor. If you meet her on the dance floor, take her over to the sofas. Most decent venues have several different areas, so every so often, move her somewhere.

If she agrees to move around the bar with you, then she’s more likely to agree to move to the next club or bar with you. If she comes to the next bar with you, she’s more likely to come home with you. If she’s with friends you may need to merge their group with yours for this to work. Otherwise moving her around the club is better than nothing.

Spreading the time you have together over several different places install of all in one place makes it seem like you’ve been together for longer. Since she’s moving from place to place with you it also makes it into a sort of instant date, like you are already together.

Don’t get her Too Horny

One way to blow things is to let her get too horny in the club. If she realises she can’t control herself around you she may freak out and retreat to the safety of her friends. It’s much better to limit things to kissing until you get her somewhere wh

go from tearing at your pants to stressing about what her friends are going to think of her - in the blink of an eye.

The magic bullet for overcoming this obstacle is Romance, and it doesn’t take much to make the situation more romantic.

Have an Innocent Excuse

If at the end of the evening you invite a girl to come back with you, she knows what’s up, and she knows what her friends will think and what she’ll think of herself. She’ll even worry about what you will think of her in the morning.

But, if you have an innocent excuse for her to come in, for example to show her some photos, then romance comes in to play. She can tell her friends “well, we went back to his place to look at his new widescreen TV, and then things just sort of happened.”

It doesn’t matter what the excuse is, but it should be less transparent than ‘coffee’. Ideally, it will be something you’ve already told her about earlier in the evening.

One time, on the way back from the pub I invited a girl back to my place for coffee. She declined, which was a good job because I didn’t actually have any. So then I offered juice, again she declined. I suggested she come in to look at my photos. No. Did she want to watch an episode of Friends? No. Ok. I told her I’d had a great time and would call her soon. Did she want to pop in to use the toilet?

She did, and after she’d used it we had juice while looking at my photos. In the morning we watched an episode of Friends on my widescreen TV.

Move Her Around

Another way to make things more romantic is to move her around a bit. If you meet her by the bar, take her over to the dance floor. If you meet her on the dance floor, take her over to the sofas. Most decent venues have several different areas, so every so often, move her somewhere.

If she agrees to move around the bar with you, then she’s more likely to agree to move to the next club or bar with you. If she comes to the next bar with you, she’s more likely to come home with you. If she’s with friends you may need to merge their group with yours for this to work. Otherwise moving her around the club is better than nothing.

Spreading the time you have together over several different places install of all in one place makes it seem like you’ve been together for longer. Since she’s moving from place to place with you it also makes it into a sort of instant date, like you are already together.

Don’t get her Too Horny

One way to blow things is to let her get too horny in the club. If she realises she can’t control herself around you she may freak out and retreat to the safety of her friends. It’s much better to limit things to kissing until you get her somewhere wh

her about earlier in the evening.

One time, on the way back from the pub I invited a girl back to my place for coffee. She declined, which was a good job because I didn’t actually have any. So then I offered juice, again she declined. I suggested she come in to look at my photos. No. Did she want to watch an episode of Friends? No. Ok. I told her I’d had a great time and would call her soon. Did she want to pop in to use the toilet?

She did, and after she’d used it we had juice while looking at my photos. In the morning we watched an episode of Friends on my widescreen TV.

Move Her Around

Another way to make things more romantic is to move her around a bit. If you meet her by the bar, take her over to the dance floor. If you meet her on the dance floor, take her over to the sofas. Most decent venues have several different areas, so every so often, move her somewhere.

If she agrees to move around the bar with you, then she’s more likely to agree to move to the next club or bar with you. If she comes to the next bar with you, she’s more likely to come home with you. If she’s with friends you may need to merge their group with yours for this to work. Otherwise moving her around the club is better than nothing.

Spreading the time you have together over several different places install of all in one place makes it seem like you’ve been together for longer. Since she’s moving from place to place with you it also makes it into a sort of instant date, like you are already together.

Don’t get her Too Horny

One way to blow things is to let her get too horny in the club. If she realises she can’t control herself around you she may freak out and retreat to the safety of her friends. It’s much better to limit things to kissing until you get her somewhere wh

p>If she agrees to move around the bar with you, then she’s more likely to agree to move to the next club or bar with you. If she comes to the next bar with you, she’s more likely to come home with you. If she’s with friends you may need to merge their group with yours for this to work. Otherwise moving her around the club is better than nothing.

Spreading the time you have together over several different places install of all in one place makes it seem like you’ve been together for longer. Since she’s moving from place to place with you it also makes it into a sort of instant date, like you are already together.

Don’t get her Too Horny

One way to blow things is to let her get too horny in the club. If she realises she can’t control herself around you she may freak out and retreat to the safety of her friends. It’s much better to limit things to kissing until you get her somewhere where you can actually go all the way.

When things start to get heavy in the club, break off and allow things to cool down. This will demonstrate that you are not just desperate for a shag, and that you are a man who can control his urges when he has to. Women are attracted to men who have strong animal urges, but if they see that you can control them, then they will also feel safe, which is essential if you want them to feel comfortable enough to come home with you.

All of this is about structuring the night so that things can occur naturally and romantically. Having a genuine innocent excuse for her to come back to yours allows things to ‘just happen’. Moving her around encourages that feeling that you’ve ‘known each other forever’. Restraining yourself shows her that you are interested in her for more than just her body. Which of course you are, right?

Magnus runs www.bristollair.com, a free collection of essential dating articles for men. Related articles: How Guys Screw Up First Dates.