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Added for You - Seven Ways To Turn Past Failures Into Springboards For Success
The wedding ceremony is over and you recited your personalized vows without a single fumble, blunder or gaffe. They were meaningful, straight from your heart and brought a tear of joy to your bride's eye. Now, the reception begins. As her new husband, you have your first opportunity to genuinely demonstrate for her the man she has married.First on the agenda should be an expression of heartfelt appreciation to both sets of parents. Acknowledge your new wife's parents by thanking them for their contribution to the wedding ceremony itself, but more importantly, thank them for their daughter. Be somewhat specific and briefly describe the qualities you find most endearing about her. Also, take this opportunity to assure them of the devotion and unending love you will bestow upon her for the rest of her life. Not only will this endear you to her family, but your new wife will appreciate your sensitivity and sincerity as well.In honoring your own parents, express your gratitude for the love, support and encouragement they have given you throughout the years. Thank your father specifically for teaching you how to be a man and a husband. Thank your mother for serving as an example of a loving wife and mother. Again, your new wife will appreciate your awareness of the paths each of you traveled that led you to each other.Wi
After a business failure has led you to analyze the objective data of your experience, you then need to look at the kind of person you need to become to see the results you want in the future. Beyond visualizing the physical objects or the status you seek, you need to look within and say, “What kind of person do I need to become in order to get what I want?” To become that person, you may need additional education or training in your field or another career; you may need to hire a coach or find a mentor to guide you through the steps to becoming who you want to be. Or you may require a character shift, to be reborn, in a sense. Lance Armstrong, for example, had never won a single Tour de France before he was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Then it looked like his cycling career, and maybe even his life, were over. He fought back hard and won. Today he credits his great cycling success to the person he became as a result of having cancer. He says, “Cancer saved my life.”
Tip No. 5: Accept that falling is a normal part of life, but tr
If you've been on the heavy side for quite some time now or even if you've been unsuccessful in shedding off your unwanted fats, you might have come across some quick fixes such as diet pills. This is because one of the most popular ways of losing weight is the assorted diet pills that are out in the market today. These are marketed as “food supplements” instead of diet drugs and because of this, these types of pills are not regulated by the government or the food development authority. This particular type of quick fix is something that should not be considered or included in a long-term diet plan for a lot of reasons.One of the reasons why these types of diet pills should not be taken into consideration is because there have been a lot of diet pill companies out there that are not that transparent. This is because some of these diet pills achieve their results using illegal or hazardous means. Take the drug Ephedra for example. This was included in a number of “diet pills” before and it has been found to be very hazardous after a lot of investigations and testings were done. It was because of these particular diet ingredients that the industry has become wary of using ingredients that have adverse effects on their consumers.Those people who are looking for a quick fix to their problems and those unable to stick with a l
You may not realize it right now, but you do have options. You could wallow in self-pity, or remain angry at those whom you blame for your current situation. Or you can turn your past disappointments into great accomplishments. How? Just follow the path of the heroes who’ve gone before you. They will show you how to transform past adversity and failures into springboards for success.
Tip No. 1: Take An Objective, Not an Emotional Look, At Where You’ve Come From
Thomas Edison believed there were no such things as mistakes, only eliminated options that brought him one step closer to his goal. There is no such thing as “failure,” he claimed, only lessons to be learned.
Most people find it difficult to see a failure in an analytical, impartial fashion; many of us were raised to believe that if we failed at something, we were failures. Therefore, as adults, we take failure personally, believing our lack of success indicates a lack in our character. Instead, we must look at the situation objectively, as a matter of cause and effect. The fact that we fail in business situations does not mean we are failures, but rather that we didn’t create the right cause to achieve the desired effect.
If you find yourself in a stuck emotional state, go back and analyze the steps you took and see what you might have done differently. Remove the emotional involvement; just look at the raw data. Logically and dispassionately examine the course you chose and determine why it did not yield the result you wanted, and then consider why it was not appropriate for that particular situation. You’ll need to acknowledge what you did that led to the failure, and take responsibility for it. But, like Thomas Edison, you should take what you can learn from it and move on.
Tip No. 2: Focus on the purpose on the other side of the pain.
Happiness does not come from the elimination of pain, but from the realization of your purpose. Keep reminding yourself why you are doing what you’re doing. Even less lofty purposes, such as “I just work here to pay the rent and my car payment,” can be transformed over time if you look at the higher purpose for why you might be there. Perhaps you will make contacts that will help you in the future. Perhaps you are trying to save money to put your kids through college. The key is to look beneath the surface to find the spiritual meaning.
To succeed, you’ll need to look at the higher goals you’ve set and determine their importance, then focus on what is good, important, and meaningful to you, rather than on the mundane aspects or the things you hate about your job. If you develop a strong enough reason or purpose to keep going, and you can focus on that purpose, you will succeed at each of the steps you take toward your goal. Without a sense of purpose, you will lack motivation and consciously or subconsciously doom yourself to failure.
Tip No. 3: You can’t see the whole parade from where you stand.
You never know from where you stand whether what you are experiencing will turn out to be good or bad until enough time has passed. A seemingly hopeless situation may be exactly the disaster you fear, but it may also turn from catastrophe into triumph in ways you are unable to predict.
When people get stuck in “Why me?” mode as a result of a severe business loss, they require a mindshift in order to recover a sense of belief, hope, and inner strength so they can move on. If we can look outside of ourselves at others who have overcome adverse circumstances, we can gain the courage to believe in our ultimate success. In your industry, who do you know or have heard of who failed but managed to get back on top, perhaps in another industry altogether? History is filled with examples.
Soichiro Honda persevered through countless failures and setbacks, over four decades, before his Honda Motor Company became one of the largest automobile companies in the world. His inspiring story demonstrates the power of perseverance in the face of adversity and the necessity of innovation and creativity in periods of failure and loss.
When we make a deliberate decision not to give up, then life seems to present opportunities we hadn’t thought of or couldn’t create ourselves.
Tip no 4: It’s not whether you have won or lost in the past; it’s the person you have to become in order to win in the future.
After a business failure has led you to analyze the objective data of your experience, you then need to look at the kind of person you need to become to see the results you want in the future. Beyond visualizing the physical objects or the status you seek, you need to look within and say, “What kind of person do I need to become in order to get what I want?” To become that person, you may need additional education or training in your field or another career; you may need to hire a coach or find a mentor to guide you through the steps to becoming who you want to be. Or you may require a character shift, to be reborn, in a sense. Lance Armstrong, for example, had never won a single Tour de France before he was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Then it looked like his cycling career, and maybe even his life, were over. He fought back hard and won. Today he credits his great cycling success to the person he became as a result of having cancer. He says, “Cancer saved my life.”
Tip No. 5: Accept that falling is a normal part of life, but try
You are planning a beach front wedding and while you are trying to put together your table settings and place cards and other details to complete the look, you cannot seem to decide on what style or theme you should pick. Why not go with beach related place cards, table settings and other wedding favors? The choices vary from something very elegant or a more casual theme based style, or simply just a few beach wedding favors for your guests to signify that you were married on the beach. Should you decide to go with something that is also a wedding favor it would allow your guests to take a keepsake home with them as a way to commemorate your wedding day.So what options do you have to choose from? Let’s go through some of the different items that you would be using and see what selections are usually made and how they can be catered to the theme specific wedding. Let’s start with place cards, imagine your table with beach themed place cards. How about using miniature Adirondack chair place card holders for your place settings. You could have these personalized with Bride and Groom’s name or even add tea light candles. Perhaps the Adirondack idea is not for you. Then how about silver plated dolphin place cards or even beach palm tree place card holders? Clearly there are quite a few options it really depends on what your style and
If you find yourself in a stuck emotional state, go back and analyze the steps you took and see what you might have done differently. Remove the emotional involvement; just look at the raw data. Logically and dispassionately examine the course you chose and determine why it did not yield the result you wanted, and then consider why it was not appropriate for that particular situation. You’ll need to acknowledge what you did that led to the failure, and take responsibility for it. But, like Thomas Edison, you should take what you can learn from it and move on.
Tip No. 2: Focus on the purpose on the other side of the pain.
Happiness does not come from the elimination of pain, but from the realization of your purpose. Keep reminding yourself why you are doing what you’re doing. Even less lofty purposes, such as “I just work here to pay the rent and my car payment,” can be transformed over time if you look at the higher purpose for why you might be there. Perhaps you will make contacts that will help you in the future. Perhaps you are trying to save money to put your kids through college. The key is to look beneath the surface to find the spiritual meaning.
To succeed, you’ll need to look at the higher goals you’ve set and determine their importance, then focus on what is good, important, and meaningful to you, rather than on the mundane aspects or the things you hate about your job. If you develop a strong enough reason or purpose to keep going, and you can focus on that purpose, you will succeed at each of the steps you take toward your goal. Without a sense of purpose, you will lack motivation and consciously or subconsciously doom yourself to failure.
Tip No. 3: You can’t see the whole parade from where you stand.
You never know from where you stand whether what you are experiencing will turn out to be good or bad until enough time has passed. A seemingly hopeless situation may be exactly the disaster you fear, but it may also turn from catastrophe into triumph in ways you are unable to predict.
When people get stuck in “Why me?” mode as a result of a severe business loss, they require a mindshift in order to recover a sense of belief, hope, and inner strength so they can move on. If we can look outside of ourselves at others who have overcome adverse circumstances, we can gain the courage to believe in our ultimate success. In your industry, who do you know or have heard of who failed but managed to get back on top, perhaps in another industry altogether? History is filled with examples.
Soichiro Honda persevered through countless failures and setbacks, over four decades, before his Honda Motor Company became one of the largest automobile companies in the world. His inspiring story demonstrates the power of perseverance in the face of adversity and the necessity of innovation and creativity in periods of failure and loss.
When we make a deliberate decision not to give up, then life seems to present opportunities we hadn’t thought of or couldn’t create ourselves.
Tip no 4: It’s not whether you have won or lost in the past; it’s the person you have to become in order to win in the future.
After a business failure has led you to analyze the objective data of your experience, you then need to look at the kind of person you need to become to see the results you want in the future. Beyond visualizing the physical objects or the status you seek, you need to look within and say, “What kind of person do I need to become in order to get what I want?” To become that person, you may need additional education or training in your field or another career; you may need to hire a coach or find a mentor to guide you through the steps to becoming who you want to be. Or you may require a character shift, to be reborn, in a sense. Lance Armstrong, for example, had never won a single Tour de France before he was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Then it looked like his cycling career, and maybe even his life, were over. He fought back hard and won. Today he credits his great cycling success to the person he became as a result of having cancer. He says, “Cancer saved my life.”
Tip No. 5: Accept that falling is a normal part of life, but tr
The beginning of a new year at college is filled with expectations of cool courses, new friends, catching up with old ones, and something that that never seems to change for freshman or seniors alike; a limited cash flow. How to successfully oversee your student loans, credit cards and cash-on-hand can ease some stress and allow you to concentrate more on acing your courses.Your mantra should be "it's not how much money I have, it's what I do with it". Once you can map out what you spend money on, how to save it, and how to stretch it, you'll be ahead of many of your classmates. Being chronically out of money is as common for millionaires as it is for those starting out on their own, once you get the spirit of money you can manage it instead of it managing you. Look at handling your money as a part time job, once you do you'll have much more of it. Here are some tips to get you started.-Make an computer file to keep track of all your spending. A spreadsheet works good, list the categories of your spending and the date and amount spent. Don't be surprised at what you spend your money on, it's always an eye-opener. Keep a notepad or enter amounts into your blackberry when you make a purchase to enter later into your spreadsheet.-Get a free copy of your credit report, you're allowed one each year from the three large
To succeed, you’ll need to look at the higher goals you’ve set and determine their importance, then focus on what is good, important, and meaningful to you, rather than on the mundane aspects or the things you hate about your job. If you develop a strong enough reason or purpose to keep going, and you can focus on that purpose, you will succeed at each of the steps you take toward your goal. Without a sense of purpose, you will lack motivation and consciously or subconsciously doom yourself to failure.
Tip No. 3: You can’t see the whole parade from where you stand.
You never know from where you stand whether what you are experiencing will turn out to be good or bad until enough time has passed. A seemingly hopeless situation may be exactly the disaster you fear, but it may also turn from catastrophe into triumph in ways you are unable to predict.
When people get stuck in “Why me?” mode as a result of a severe business loss, they require a mindshift in order to recover a sense of belief, hope, and inner strength so they can move on. If we can look outside of ourselves at others who have overcome adverse circumstances, we can gain the courage to believe in our ultimate success. In your industry, who do you know or have heard of who failed but managed to get back on top, perhaps in another industry altogether? History is filled with examples.
Soichiro Honda persevered through countless failures and setbacks, over four decades, before his Honda Motor Company became one of the largest automobile companies in the world. His inspiring story demonstrates the power of perseverance in the face of adversity and the necessity of innovation and creativity in periods of failure and loss.
When we make a deliberate decision not to give up, then life seems to present opportunities we hadn’t thought of or couldn’t create ourselves.
Tip no 4: It’s not whether you have won or lost in the past; it’s the person you have to become in order to win in the future.
After a business failure has led you to analyze the objective data of your experience, you then need to look at the kind of person you need to become to see the results you want in the future. Beyond visualizing the physical objects or the status you seek, you need to look within and say, “What kind of person do I need to become in order to get what I want?” To become that person, you may need additional education or training in your field or another career; you may need to hire a coach or find a mentor to guide you through the steps to becoming who you want to be. Or you may require a character shift, to be reborn, in a sense. Lance Armstrong, for example, had never won a single Tour de France before he was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Then it looked like his cycling career, and maybe even his life, were over. He fought back hard and won. Today he credits his great cycling success to the person he became as a result of having cancer. He says, “Cancer saved my life.”
Tip No. 5: Accept that falling is a normal part of life, but tr
Although you might have originally think that the most expensive part of your computer was the original purchase, if you have had your computer for longer than a couple months and print out documents often probably know by now that computer upkeep is more than some bargained for. In addition to the original price, you have to keep an updated virus protection program, buy paper all of the time, as well as keep the ink cartridges full. For those that print off their computer for business of personal purposes, they know how much of a financial burden can be posed when the ink cartridge runs low.The cost associated with trying to keep up the printer maintenance can range from as low as $10 or so for a color inkjet cartridge and up to as high as $50-$75 for laser toner cartridges. You may be able to fill your existing ink cartridge 3 or 4 times for the same price it would cost you to purchase a new one.When trying to make ends meet there are some different options you can consider. Ink jet refill kits can be purchased to save some money but there are some definite down sides to attempting this task on your own. This process requires that you use a little needle and syringe type devise to refill your existing empty cartridges but this is a dirty process and the ink quality cannot be guaranteed to meet manufacturer's specificati
When people get stuck in “Why me?” mode as a result of a severe business loss, they require a mindshift in order to recover a sense of belief, hope, and inner strength so they can move on. If we can look outside of ourselves at others who have overcome adverse circumstances, we can gain the courage to believe in our ultimate success. In your industry, who do you know or have heard of who failed but managed to get back on top, perhaps in another industry altogether? History is filled with examples.
Soichiro Honda persevered through countless failures and setbacks, over four decades, before his Honda Motor Company became one of the largest automobile companies in the world. His inspiring story demonstrates the power of perseverance in the face of adversity and the necessity of innovation and creativity in periods of failure and loss.
When we make a deliberate decision not to give up, then life seems to present opportunities we hadn’t thought of or couldn’t create ourselves.
Tip no 4: It’s not whether you have won or lost in the past; it’s the person you have to become in order to win in the future.
After a business failure has led you to analyze the objective data of your experience, you then need to look at the kind of person you need to become to see the results you want in the future. Beyond visualizing the physical objects or the status you seek, you need to look within and say, “What kind of person do I need to become in order to get what I want?” To become that person, you may need additional education or training in your field or another career; you may need to hire a coach or find a mentor to guide you through the steps to becoming who you want to be. Or you may require a character shift, to be reborn, in a sense. Lance Armstrong, for example, had never won a single Tour de France before he was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Then it looked like his cycling career, and maybe even his life, were over. He fought back hard and won. Today he credits his great cycling success to the person he became as a result of having cancer. He says, “Cancer saved my life.”
Tip No. 5: Accept that falling is a normal part of life, but tr
Lots of singles hate singles bars. But, in spite of this attitude, go to a bar or nightclub on a Friday or Saturday night and you will find lots of single women looking for love and romance. Don't kid yourself into thinking single women just go to singles bars just to hang out with their girlfriends, to dance, or get drunk. Their main purpose in the back of their minds is to meet men. And you can score with them if you will just follow these simple rules:Don't drink too much! Even worse, don't get drunk. Women are very turned off by drunk men. Plus, if all you do is drink all night, this is wasted time that you should be spending approaching and meeting women. I recommend that you do your drinking at home before you go out. Then just sip on cokes when you get to the bar. What I used to do is order a glass of wine and sip on it all night. This will save a lot of money on your bar tap too.Chances are you are going to get your advances rejected by women. And some women will turn you down when you ask them to dance. Most men give up on meeting women after they have been rejected a couple of times. They get frustrated and just drink more to drown their sorrows and go home with their tale between their legs.You must never give up! You must be persistent! Keep approaching women until you meet someone who
After a business failure has led you to analyze the objective data of your experience, you then need to look at the kind of person you need to become to see the results you want in the future. Beyond visualizing the physical objects or the status you seek, you need to look within and say, “What kind of person do I need to become in order to get what I want?” To become that person, you may need additional education or training in your field or another career; you may need to hire a coach or find a mentor to guide you through the steps to becoming who you want to be. Or you may require a character shift, to be reborn, in a sense. Lance Armstrong, for example, had never won a single Tour de France before he was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Then it looked like his cycling career, and maybe even his life, were over. He fought back hard and won. Today he credits his great cycling success to the person he became as a result of having cancer. He says, “Cancer saved my life.”
Tip No. 5: Accept that falling is a normal part of life, but try to fall forward every time—in the direction of your goal.
We are all continually creating our own destinies through the choices we make and our desire and determination to see them through. Perhaps you’ve suffered a major business defeat such as downsizing or termination. Realize that you can leave that job on good terms with a handshake and a letter of recommendation, or with the threat of a lawsuit against those who fired you. How you handle the crisis has a dramatic impact on how you will succeed from that point forward.
For example, early in his football coaching career, Lou Holtz was fired from his job at the University of Arkansas for no apparent reason. He could have sued, sulked or slandered. But instead, he shook hands and moved on, keeping the good friends he had there. From there, he went to the University of Minnesota. When his dream job at the University of Notre Dame job came open, Holtz’ applied. Notre Dame started calling Holtz’ past employers - including the University of Arkansas. Arkansas gave him a raving recommendation and Notre Dame hired him. Holtz finally got his dream job where he won several national championships. Had Holtz chosen to react negatively after being fired at Arkansas, he would have virtually guaranteed a bad performance review, which could have cost him his dream job at Notre Dame. How we react to bad things today has a huge impact on what happens to us tomorrow.
Like Lou Holtz, you can choose to fall in the direction of your next goal, deciding to treat the fall as a sort of awkward but valuable step along the path of your life and career. If, instead of dwelling on the circumstances of the past, you can manage to move on in a forward direction, your fall will send you in the direction of your goals.
Tip No. 6: “Retreat” does not equal “defeat.”
A retreat can be a valuable opportunity to regroup and rethink strategies and goals. For example, one of the worst business mistakes you can make is to continue to pour money into a failing business; in this situation, knowing when to call it quits and creatively develop a better plan is essential.
Don’t let pride keep you stuck in a wrong decision. Managers and investors need to be willing to change a course of action that isn’t working, no matter how much faith, time, and money may have been put into it so far. You need to be willing to abandon a path that is not taking you where you want to go and start over again.
Captain Oliver Hazard Perry is famous for captaining the ship that bore the flag saying “Don’t give up the ship” during the War of 1812. The little known fact is that he did abandon that ship! When 80% of his men were dead and his ship was sinking, he paddled a little john-boat over to another ship, took control of it, and soundly defeated the British in the Battle of Lake Erie.
Tip No. 7: Realize that pain and heartache are only labor pains before your birth.
Many people who lost their jobs and businesses as the economy took a downturn have searched for years and have yet to find a job in their industry. This loss may have a profound effect on their sense of self. Like Moses after he was stripped of his wealth and power and was exiled into the desert by Pharoah, they may feel as if all is lost, as they find themselves doing work they never would have envisioned themselves doing when they were in college. But Moses’ many years of exile in the desert was exactly what he needed in order to become the kind of man who would eventually free the Hebrews from slavery.
In any painful, frightening situation, you need to realize that there is hope on the other side of the tragedy, even if you can’t see it yet. When you quit, you guarantee that you will not be around to experience that which makes your suffering count for something. Turn your pain into a purpose.
If you persevere, you will gain wisdom and perspective and finally realize why you went through everything: namely, to become a new person, the person you needed to become in order to achieve the success you were seeking.
Claim Your Future Success
Many heroes of the past have blazed a trail for us to follow if we really want to overcome tragedies and failures. Remember, just because you may have failed does not mean you are a “failure.” Failure is an attitude, not a place. Get up and keep crawling, sliding, and falling forward in the direction of your dreams. If you follow the hero’s path, eventually you will get there.
Copyright 2005. All rights reserved. Daniel R. Castro, author of Critical Choices That Change Lives: How Heroes Turn Tragedy Into Triumph. To download the first two chapters free, go to http://dancastro.com
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